Yachtsmen getting Divorced

[Jools_of_Top_Cat]

hmmm, interesting.

I feel quite opposite to many who write here as sometimes it is my gurlyfriend who is chomping at the bit to get down to the boat while I meander around the house.

We are planning our escape to warmer climes and she is actually beginning to get frustrated that it is taking so long to get things in place so we can go.

Maybe it is my choice of partner, she emigrated from New Zealand a few years before I met her and came here to explore and travel Europe for a start. She happily admits she has no roots to put down and even thinks our boat is big enough!!

Though she is fighting to save her sewing machine for the long term trip, I am trying to justify the weight. Sounds sad doesn't, when many are fighting to use their boats for their summer holidays. I guess I am lucky!

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[Olly]

Hmmmmm, something not quite adding up here (or is it simply my female logic playing me up). These forums seem to be full of single and newly divorced guys with yachts wanting female company yet none seems to be north of the border. Maybe it's a north south divide thing and northern men stay married? If there are any in the north HOW DO I GET TO MEET SOME OF THEM? I am single, fit, attractive, intelligent, adventurous, keen to learn, new to sailing and would love to meet a single, non smoking, skipper (36-50) to crew with on a regular basis so I can gain experience and enjoy like minded male companionship (who knows what else might come of it?) yet so far nada. I am based in SW Scotland so someone based anywhere from Cumbria to the Clyde would be ideal. I don't think I fancy the round the world stuff but who knows in a couple of years time?

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[DavidofMersea]

Jools, you seem to have a dream girl there, has she got a sister? If you are being so slow, it is not a good idea to post here with so many single men.

I am planning to buy a large catamaran and I also have ambitions to go to the sun, and if she wants to bring her sewing machine, it is OK with me

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[oldgit]

Re: What sane female

That shiney suit is very handy for
A,boating
B,our frequent court appearances for alleged fraud/tax evasion etc.


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[bedouin]

Perhaps the common link is not that they are all sailors, but that they all also contribute to Scuttlebutt /forums/images/icons/smile.gif

I reckon I spend almost as much time keeping up with the postings on these Forums as I do sailing

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[milltech]

It seems to me that most of the forum are family based cruisers. My wife would rather be doing almost anything than come on the boat, we've been married 28 years and owned a boat for most of the last 20 and she's not up to 20 days yet.

On being collected from my boat by the launch service on Sunday I was bemoaning this fact to the boatman and he surprised me by saying that the majority of his traffic was to men only boats, either alone or together as a crew.

I'm a bit too protective of my space to be cheek by jowl with a boat full of men, so I'm destined to be a single hander for (anti) social sailing, unless of course I could find a "sea wife". (Now there's an idea).

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[milltech]

Actually for me the boat IS a floating caravan, I like arrivals and departures, new places and new sights. My wife, on the other hand, likes being at home, likes the known places and the same sights.

I would certainly give up the boat for a camper van, but I have the feeling the result would be the same. An early agreement would falter in the practice.

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[pessimist]

Don't be confused, we share a boat but not always opinions. Can assure you we're two (very) differnt people.

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[pragmatist]

I'm not sure you should be getting into this one. I am not him, and he is not me, though we do share a close relationship. But I also share a relationship with Snow Leopard. Howzat for confusing you further. (Oh and it's not troilism !)

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[jac]

Is anybody else confused or just me?

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[snowleopard]

confusing IDs

you're on the right track neraida, but not quite there yet. keep thinking about it!

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[kilkerr1]

I'm always confused. Glad someone's come to join me.


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[DogStar]

Personally, the only reason I managed to fulfil my dream and buy a boat was because I had seperated from my wife. She hated the idea when we were together, but now she keeps asking to come out on it.

I don't think the high incidence of break-ups on these boards is anything to do with boats, it seems to be happening to everyone. I can't imagine many of my friends being with their current partner for the next fifty years.

Marriage is treated as only a small step more commited than boyfriend/girlfriend status, and people are more willing nowadays to give up on it than work it out.

I'm just as guilty of that as anyone, I suppose, seeing as I left my wife after only a year and a half of hell.

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[pragmatist]

Well ironically there could be occasions when sharing a boat keeps you together. Neither of us wants custody of the house but neither would give up the boat - answer - stick together and carry on arguing about who should be obeyed !

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[janeK]

Pessimist is a male as you stated 'I am not him,' and your partner/husband?
Snow Leopard is your son.

Come on tell us.....

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[kilkerr1]

Must be something like the Superman/Clark Kent syndrome, one is the daytime incarnation, the other the super hero guise...

Is there a prize for whoever gets it?!



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[dralex]

It's intruiging, whatever the answer. There could be a possibllity of psychiatric illness and multiple personality trait. The father/ mother/son seems the most logical. I suppose it also depends on how pessimist and pragmatist define relationship.

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[snowleopard]

warmer...

the thought that pragmatist is old enough to be my mother is one i shall treasure!

(sorry sis, couldn't resist that one!)

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[dralex]

Re: warmer...

Now that's shedding a bit of light- thanks Snowleopard- it was just dawning on me that given your Bio, the mother son option may be less tangible. /forums/images/icons/smile.gif

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[Tia]

Thank you wishbone for that enlightening post. As a 40yo Yachtswoman it reaffirmed my decision to avoid at all costs the old, tired and chauvanistic sailors who seemingly blame life's misfortunes on their partner. (yes, the one they chose to marry in the first place.. remember???). I especially loved the generalisation that these self-sacrificing men work to provide all for their seemingly ungrateful families and wives. How noble! I am obviously an anomaly... I have my own yacht and run my own company. My partner has never curbed my love of sailing and if he did, perhaps I'd divorce him, find a young yachtie with a strong mast and then we could all have a whinge about the Yachtswomen who are getting divorced?. Build a bridge gentlemen... life is too short to be bitter and twisted.


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