JumbleDuck
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If you have chosen to join a raft then your deck is a right of way. Would you ever refuse permission to cross?
Rafting etiquette
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johnalison
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I don't allow people to cross while smoking. I don't want to be poisoned and hot ashes could harm the deck.
RichardS
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Would you be happy for my Wife to cross your deck in her heels? I'm fine with it on my boat but what about you?
Richard
JumbleDuck
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Don't forget the separate toilet slippers for the heads.Advance notice to all:
I will be applying Japanese rules of etiquette for entry to my boat. Before stepping up you will be presented with guest slippers. On boarding you will be expected to bow and express your regret for the intrusion (even if you're invited). If you do not come bearing visiting gift... well then...
JumbleDuck
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I'm pretty sure my deck could take it. As I said in my first response, most of what the OP asks/expects is entirely reasonable. It's just the "take your shoes off because my second hand decks are the most precious things in the world" which is, frankly, silly.
RichardS
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That's fine. You're obviously like me and what goes on my boat is not the same as that which I expect other skippers to be happy with.
I wonder how many of the posters who express a negative response to the OP would be happy with high heels across their decks.
Richard
eddystone
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If I were rafted to you I’d need you to provide a stool and shoehorns on both sides of your boat if you wanted me to remove shoes.
Have you thought of getting a supply of disposable blue over socks in a bag hanging off your guard-rails on each side - surely no one could object to that
Have you thought of getting a supply of disposable blue over socks in a bag hanging off your guard-rails on each side - surely no one could object to that
JumbleDuck
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I once rafted up next to a Westerly Centaur in Carnlough. He rather grumpily told us that he would be leaving at 4am but nevertheless assented. Curiously, he seemed quite upset when we fired up the trusty seagull to leave at 4am ourselves.
laika
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By that argument there should be no problem with dropping your motorcycle helmet onto concrete. Yes I would expect my guardrails to take my weight but not necessarily without my stanchions bending. If it saved someone from falling overboard I'm happy with bent stanchions. not so much if it's because someone is too ignorant or lazy to grab my shrouds when boarding.
And for some reason the majority of people seem to put all their weight onto my guardrails instead of grabbing the shrouds. Is it because people are used to boats with gates or much lower freeboard? Who knows but more people do it than not which is one of the reasons I try to avoid rafting.
I wouldn't ask people to remove shoes assuming they were soft soled but I do have a problem with people wearing high heels across the deck. I would be happy to comply with any requests someone inside me made and would voluntarily carry my shoes if they were walking boots.
Last time I got rafted to at the folly I woke up to what I initially thought was coffee spilt all over my foredeck. I then realised it was blood and was a b*gger to get get out.
cherod
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What you / she does on your / ( her ) boat is obviously entirely up to you / ( her / by mutual consent ) but if / when on board my boat i would be expecting of her to wear more than just heels !! Shame of it !!That's fine. You're obviously like me and what goes on my boat is not the same as that which I expect other skippers to be happy with.
I wonder how many of the posters who express a negative response to the OP would be happy with high heels across their decks.
Richard
johnalison
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Salt water will wash blood out. The haemoglobin will stain but so long as it remains within cells it will not stain. Fresh water will break/haemolyse the cells and cause staining. The same with clothes.
RichardS
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cherod
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i take it that you do not speak for your wife then .So that's one forumite who has now switched sides ....... who's next?
Richard
Mudisox
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I am afraid that I draw the line with the wearing of stiletto shoes, by women, men or dogs. What really does my goat is RIBs with black outboard "rubbers" going alongside, and not using the area I put clean fenders out especially for them.
Sea-Fever
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I have no problem with stilettos straddling my cockpit.That's fine. You're obviously like me and what goes on my boat is not the same as that which I expect other skippers to be happy with.
I wonder how many of the posters who express a negative response to the OP would be happy with high heels across their decks.
Richard
HissyFit
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Nobody said I was worried about being walked on, and I dismissed the moving each time as per #47 as not feasible (you might be ashore). My position is that if you're rafted to then you should suck it up and be reasonable about it. Being crossed is should be expected, and you should expect to be given reasonable latitude to cross if you are the one on the outside.
RichardS
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HissyFit
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...and get heads installed with heated seats and spray function.
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johnalison
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The clue is in the word 'etiquette'. A randomly selected definition is:
the customary code of polite behaviour in society or among members of a particular profession or group
Note the word 'polite'. There are those who believe that there is no place for this in a public space and unfortunately this also includes some boat users. My teak decks have survived twenty years of often mistreatment by rafters, in fact, the parts which have been most trodden are in the best condition, but my beauty sleep has too often been sacrificed to the shenanigans of inconsiderate people through late night noise and failure to tie up properly that I tend to view rafters as guilty until proved innocent.
the customary code of polite behaviour in society or among members of a particular profession or group
Note the word 'polite'. There are those who believe that there is no place for this in a public space and unfortunately this also includes some boat users. My teak decks have survived twenty years of often mistreatment by rafters, in fact, the parts which have been most trodden are in the best condition, but my beauty sleep has too often been sacrificed to the shenanigans of inconsiderate people through late night noise and failure to tie up properly that I tend to view rafters as guilty until proved innocent.
Sea-Fever
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What an enjoyable thread... feel a bit bad for the OP who was voicing his discontent.
One man's misfortune....
One man's misfortune....
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