Poey50
Well-Known Member
... but since then it's always at the back of my mind, and it winds me up as im always keen to get back to the boat while exploring on land, and every time i return everything is fine obviously
help?
I'm a psychotherapist and I think it quite understandable - given your experience in which things felt rather out of control - that you have been left with some traumatic memory. The problem with this is that later good experience does not always supplant the original traumatic memory. We learn from experience but unlearning is much trickier so your memory is sending you false information - that you are in greater danger than you actually are. The toughest time to counter this with rational thoughts is - you've guessed it - in the middle of the night.
I think there have been excellent suggestions for very good anchoring practice and these will help to strengthen the rational side of you that can more accurately assess risk. You may find that with repeated good experience over a long time the originating memory may be worn down. It can help to tell yourself that it is perfectly OK to feel anxious but that anxiety applies to the past not to the present. If none of that works I think it would be good to get some psychotherapeutic help which focusses on the specific memory. The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) recommend two evidenced based short-term treatments for trauma. These are Trauma-Focussed CBT and EMDR. Of these I'd recommend the second. Two or three sessions may be enough.