Isn't it sad when a close friend dies and

[Becky]

Isn\'t it sad when a close friend dies and

you then start remembering all the times you had spent together, especially sailing. He had a beautiful yacht called Andrasta, a classic Scandinavian design. He was a colleague and a good friend and will leave a very large gap in lots of peoples lives. I feel very 'down' this evening. /forums/images/graemlins/frown.gif

 

[tome]

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I lost my close friend and sailing companion nearly 10 years back. I was very sad. We sailed all over and I learned a lot from him. He still lives on in my mind and I still try to imagine what he would do in any tricky situation.

Now his young lad is at university and tried a bit of sailing himself. He didn't enjoy the experience (shouted at a lot by skipper) so his mum asked me if I would take him out. She didn't want one trip to put him off something which was such an important part of his dads life.

You're friend will live on in your mind and, just like I did, you are feeling sorry for yourself right now. Chin up and think of all the good things he brought you and the influence he will continue to have on your future.

 

[Talbot]

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He is never really gone while people still remember him. Spend a bit of time remembering the highs and lows of where your lives crossed ansd resolve to highlight these events on the aniversery of his life.

 

[kds]

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How good it is to see such sensitive and caring replies on this forum.
Ken

 

[capt_courageous]

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Becky
A few years ago a very special sailing friend of ours died. He had a long and full life and died stepping off his boat after an enjoyable sail. Sadness is natural at times like this - it is just affection in another guise. Remember the good times.
captain not so courageous

 

[Jeremy_W]

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Could you remember him best by contributing an "Andrasta Trophy" to a club of which you know he approved? List your deceased friend's best qualities and make them the criteria for the judges.

 

[wishbone]

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Well Becky
Yes! I lost my only and best friend just over a year ago! due to our lifestyles and circumstances we never did get to go sailing together although it was on the cards. I could'nt work for a month. When you get to your early fifties you tend to notice people around you dropping off.

It is a wakeup call......! that is why we have sold our very large house for a very large price......and are in the process of changing our very busy self employed lifestyles.

 

[LittleShip]

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We lost a friend whilst sailing, he enjoyed sailing in The Clyde. So we bought a bench and had it put in one of his favourite harbours. Whenever we are up there we sit with a G&T on the bench and remember his humour. As already said they are never forgotten.
So remember to keep your chin up, he wouldnt have wanted to bring sorrow into your life.

 

[IzzyDeadyet]

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Mine is not the most appropriate username for this thread.
But Bishop Brent's words might be...

What is Dying?

A ship sails and I stand watching till she fades on the horizon and someone at my side says She is gone

Gone where? Gone from my sight, that is all.

She is just as large now as when I last saw her.
Her diminished size and total loss from my sight is in me, not in her.

And just at the moment when someone at my side says she is gone there are others who are watching her coming over their horizon and other voices take up a glad shout There she comes!

That is what dying is. An horizon and just the limit of our sight.

Lift us up, Oh Lord, that we may see further
Bishop Brent


I hope his words comfort you in your sadness.

 

[tugboat]

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Becky, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I've just been reading the messages from other forumites - just shows there are still some really nice people in the world (and quite a few are met on here)

 

[BobE]

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Becky, You have my heartfelt sympathy... I'm not good at words..
All I can say is that i lost 3 last year and I'll never recover. Time is a healer but I'm running out of it
Have a hug Bob E...

 

[orion21]

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sorry to hear of your loss,

thought this was a nice poem, hope you like it.

On the last,log night, when the light is low,
And the softest of breezes gently flow;
I'll Hoist my sail, and will gladly go
O'er the unknowen sea, to that far-off lad -
Where him whom we serve will extend his hand,
And welcome me on that distant strand,
Where the storms of life are forever stilled,
And his proise tome will be fulfilled,
a number of friends whom I've held dear,
They will mourn for me, and shed a tear
but i will be safe on the futher shore,
And greeted by those who have gone before -
and like me , are the rest forevermore.

 

[jimi]

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Find it difficult to express and anything said just sounds trite.. but to me when someone close is lost it seems that a bit of you dies as well and the sorrow and pain never leaves it just gets a bit duller. On the other hand when I'm absolutely certain that those whove gone would wish you to celebrate their life and wish them the best for where they may be rather than merely mourn their passing!

 

[powerskipper]

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Remember the good times and let them bring happiness over this sad time.

 

[Sybarite]

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I recently lost my mother and I used the following quotation from the great Lebanese poet, Khalil Gibran “When you are sorrowful, look again in your heart and you shall see that, in truth, you are weeping for that which has been your delight.”

I found it to be very true and I hope it helps.

John

 

[charon]

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Becky, I'm so sorry. I tend to get tongue tied at times like this but your friend would not want you to be unhappy. Chin up and remember the good times, celebrate his life.

Godfrey

 

[Aja]

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Becky

A couple of years ago a friend and colleague collapsed and died on the foredeck of the boat he had recently bought into while we were doing West Highland Week.

Massive heart attack which stunned the rest of the crew for a long time after.

Our one consolation was that he died genuinely enjoying where he was and what he was doing.

He used to sit with us after a race beaming saying that he just couldn't believe that he owned a part of this boat.

Time heals. Still think I see him standing at the station some mornings...

Donald

 

[claymore]

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Becky
Others will do this more eloquently than I - sorry to hear of your loss.

 

[Becky]

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Thank you so much everyone. I think these must be the nicest responses on this forum: ever. It is so nice for you to share your sad moments with me, it helps to keep things in perspective. I have written to Ingrid, his wife rather along the lines you have recommended. I hope it will go some little way to ease her pain, as it has eased mine.

Thank you again. Becky

 

[StugeronSteve]

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Becky, sorry.