disillusionment

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Who hates sailing ?

Has anyone else experienced, after restoring an old boat, that they have become disillusioned and unable to cope with the idea of casting off and sailing the thing ?

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As a poor harbour, Littlehampton has had more than its fair share of the disillusioned legions that have started amateur boat-building projects.
It was the fourth summer that I had lived “entrenched” inside the shipbuilding shed opposite the café. I slept under a skirt of polythene nailed around Fortuna’s bare hull.
Bas’s boat SARAII was similar in size to mine, but by this time had her masts up. Many times, we enjoyed together one of his glorious curries, washed down with cheap duty-free grog retrieved from the back of his Vauxhall van before retiring to my shed.
One such night dining aboard SARAII, with a lull in the banter and a lonely eye passing through one of the open portholes, Bas complained “Soon I won’t have an excuse not to go sailing!”
I knew what he meant. He had sailed into retirement aboard SARAII, and here she had come to rest for fourteen happy years. Ill health had claimed two close friends since, the boat had been reborn under his stewardship; decision, a rare thing to be made in these surroundings, was bearing down upon him.
“I know it sounds stupid, but I think the time is truly coming when I won’t have any reason to be in the slip anymore, it’s been so long, SARA’s nearly done, and I’m ashamed to admit it, but I’m scared to leave the harbour now!”
He had been in the slip for five years himself, and had become used to hanging his washing over the boom without having to rope it on, used to being able to move stuff on and off without climbing a ladder or clambering into a dinghy.

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Has anyone else discovered that after a few years of working on a boat, the desire to take her out to sea has died ?



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happens all the time

I have seen this happening all the time. And not just after a long time of working on an oldish boat. Also people who have been sitting in boatyards for a couple of months often need someone to cut their mooring lines, because there always seems to be a reason to stay a little longer.

This is all gone by the time your old slip dissapears around the first bend of the river.

Also, many liveaboards are reluctant to take everything they have (the boat and her contents) to sea. Happens to me and my partner every spring. Just force yourself to go and you'll be fine.

However, if you think you've lost the desire to go to sea, try a not-so-far-away destination first, preferably one that you've always loved or always wanted to see.
Or make it a meet-up with old friends you haven't seen for a time.

It will make you casting off more attractive. Remember, for some of us cruising is all about going to sea, for others it's all about arriving in new and exciting places....

Do let us know how this all ends up... Though we do sail in weekends and summer holidays, we are still bound to our fixed spot because of work. One day, hopefully, that will end and we will (or should.....) cast off not to return....

and when you go...
fair winds



<hr width=100% size=1>Peter a/b SV Heerenleed, Steenbergen, Netherlands
 
As Nike says: JUST DO IT!

The feeling is more comon than people admit. After a break of 15 years from sailing, nine years ago I bought a yacht to retire on singlehanded. After three years spent on preparation and disentanglement from the complex administrative and domestic spaghetti that keep us from doing what we really want, I was scarcely able to leave my East Coast base.

One morning very early, just before turning 61, I just left with full water tanks and a few weeks supply of food and sailed for the first time across the channel. I have since lived aboard full time, pottering around the Med for six years and a couple of years ago crossed the Atlantic via the Canaries and Cape Verdes with another old git on his yacht...but at the end of each winter I still get cold feet before embarking my normal six month's cruising.

Recognize that apprehension is a normal human emotion and just leave!

PS: Get hold of a copy of the short story "The £200 pound Millionaire" written by Weston Martyr around 1935>

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Excellent to hear of your experience. See, you crossed the Atalantic at age 65 single handed. I hear people in their 50's saying they are too old to cross the English with a full crew.

Where are you now?

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Thanks for your thoughts. Actually I crossed the Atlantic with another guy the same age, on his yacht, but it still counts! Now decided to stick to the Mediterranean because of the food, wine, culture, variety, form E111, linguistic challenges and easy EasyJet access to the half dozen people I care about.

Favourite areas France, Corsica, Italy, Sardegna and the Balearics. I am not a fan of Greece, Turkey or the Spanish mainland coast.

I keep bumping into two old sailing friends, one 74 and the other 81, who coastal potter like myself but the prize must go to a Frenchman I met, aged 79 who had just sailed from Gibraltar to Toulon singlehanded with only one stop, in Mallorca.

The moral? It ain't over until its over.

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glad to see your note, I thought it was just me that was reluctant to go. I started looking at the
money I was spending on slip fees and the lack of use, so it was either sell it or go. I decided to
go.

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If it was easy for me to potter off each weekend then I doubt if my memories would be so dear. How I love mooring and getting off down the pub...the thing is would I enjoy the pub as much if...hmmm

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I just followed some of Lindsay's advice "PS: Get hold of a copy of the short story "The £200 pound Millionaire" written by Weston Martyr around 1935>". It's a great story. For others who might want to follow his advice then, thanks to the power of the internet, here is a site I found with the story online (it's well out of copyright I think so it's all above board): <A target="_blank" HREF=http://crip.moorey.net/toplevel/boatpages/stories/200gbpstory.html>http://crip.moorey.net/toplevel/boatpages/stories/200gbpstory.html</A>


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Re: happens all the time

We've been living aboard for 2 years now - France Ireland and now wintering in exotic Bristol! Certainly feel doubts after each winter but like many others once we let ropes go all doubts fade away on the wind.... We are of course entering another period of shore bound doubt - which may be less to do with anxiety about sailing about the place, and more to to do with the general problem of what is the right way to live - this is not a problem exclusive to dreaming sailors and boat dwelling landlubbers. Looking around there seems so much needs to be done in terms of saving the planet from humanity that merely swanning about on a boat can seem serious self-indulgence.....but on the other hand.....

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Herb Payson, an American cruising sailor who has done a lot of cruising and written several great books has some relevant advice in his book, "Advice to the Sail-Lorn": After you have spent a long time preparing the boat and yourself but still haven't got away, you must ask yourself whether your goal is to go cruising, or to get ready to go cruising.

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The last piece in place ?

It's not just the "stuck in the yard" syndrome is it ? It's the ability to compromise on one, or many, issues. If we were all to have the perfect boat - as half the world seem to have if you read YM or YW - fifty or sixty footers with washing machines and a plethora of kit then setting off "should" be easy. So if you don't have the perfect boat - its too small or not suited to oceans then there's one easy out. And in practice we know many people for whom the pull of home or, more frequently, grandchildren prove too strong.

Sadly we've not yet thrown off the mortar and bricks but I know if we do manage it there'll be a myriad of spurious reasons why it seems too hard until - as an earlier post said - we actually put the sails up and head out of harbour. Every time we go sailing I think "next stop Coruna" - she's that kind of boat - but when the day comes it'll be a whole lot harder.

However, I'd love to hear from those who have done it and then regretted it. Are there any out there who wish they hadn't cast off ?

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casting off - the big mistake...

we made a mistake when setting out across the pond. we planned to come back. too many things were left 'just for the year' so that we had no option but to return. we thought a year would be plenty but should have allowed far longer.

now it will take another couple of years before we are ready to go again.

i've built two ocean going boats now and seen many other builders fall by the wayside. here are some of the reasons:

over-optimistic views of the time and skills needed

change of lifestyle (new partners, kids etc.

lack of funds

and the biggest group, those for whom the building is more important than the going, though few of them admit it to themselves.

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Re: casting off - the big mistake...

Why is it then that when I'm at the house over winter I don't want to go to the boat, but when I'm at the boat in spring and summer, I don't want to go back to the house? My problem is I enjoy both halves of our life too much! Maybe I'm just lucky.

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Re: casting off - the big mistake...

Hey Bro ! Isn't there a bit of sophistry in there somewhere ? Would you really have got 'er indoors to agree to an unlimited trip away from the family ? By setting a time limit and an agenda you at least avoided the "we're not ready yet" syndrome which affects so many of those here - and maybe us too !

Deadlines concentrate the mind wonderfully - as our line of work has always proved !

Keep at it - we are - no more dogs after this set !





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Re: casting off - the big mistake...

yes, you're right, i would have had much more of a problem if i'd started off with a 5 year plan. it wasn't until we were half way through the trip that she started to realise we could have done with more time. i think the impending prospect of an eastbound crossing also made her want to stay out there.

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Re: casting off - the big mistake...

At least she now sounds convinced - and now you have one in Oz maybe you'll get thru Panama before they close it ! Still I think taking the plane is chickening out - and far less pleasant. You can't be working on your bricks and mortar or SL while you're swanning about - and do you have tickets for the RWC final ?

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