Caution! - Tough times honest forumites

dylanwinter

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Caution! - Tough times for honest forumites

This, and PBO are wonderful forums. The honest and open advice I have received here have saved me lots of aggravation and money. There is a sort of cimmunity here.

The expertise and local knowledge has been invaluable to me over the years during my slow journey.

My boat is currently resting in a mud berth on the Humber at a lovely sailing club because I was introduced to the right people by a forumite. I have spent some splendid nights in anchorages recommended by people here.


But this place works on honesty and integrity. Without it we are lost.

Occasionally there is a spat about RNLI funding or RYA training - but it is all honest and open discourse.

Earlier this week there was a thread started from a chap who told a story about how he had been severely msitreated by a yacht broker

it turned into a fairly long thread

http://www.ybw.com/forums/showthread.php?t=332651


he was posting under the name of Glynny

he was calling for legislation and protection from rogue brokers

he named names

he said that he was an academic with wide sailing experience but looking for his first boat to introduce his family to sailing and was looking at a heap of junk costing £3,500

some of us repsonded offering advice.

His posting seemed a bit odd.... some many of the posts
on here are a bit odd - but I think they are generally honest.


so I had a look at his other postings

He had started a thread in the spring also complaining about another broker

http://www.ybw.com/forums/showthread.php?t=313166



this time he said that he was looking for a large boat to take disabled children sailing.

Again people took him at face value, extended the hand of friendship, gave him some good and useful advice.

But the links were left there blackening the names of brokers

there was a third thread started that told a different story

http://www.ybw.com/forums/showthread.php?t=257011


Lots of people use an alias on these fora - often their boat name - nothing wrong with that but they are not hiding anything other than stopping their name from bouncing to the top of a Google search should their boss try to track down their on-line activities

I read the Glynny posts and sent him a PM





Re: please explain
Quote:
Originally Posted by dylanwinter
could you please explain the internal inconsistencies in your posts

or tell me why you are gunning for certain brokers

a sailor with wide experience yet looking for your first yacht

a boat builder

a person looking to help disabled children

prepared to consider all sorts of boats - regardless of geography or type

please, please explain

Dylan

he gave me an answer

it went something like

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I know this is the web - it is a sort of wild west where few rules apply

but these forums are, if not entirely civilised, at least honest.

Perhaps this chap is genuinly confused about his own identity - in which case I sincerely apologise

perhaps he is a young bloke out for a laugh at our expense - in which case that is a pretty pathetic game

or maybe he is a bored broker attempting to blacken the names of his competitors in which case things must be really tough for the established yacht brokers at the moment that some of them are resorting to such tactics.

The really worrying this is that these guys might get better at misleading us

in which case we would all have to be much more supicious about the motives of fellow forumites and think twice before hitting the send key


The whole episode makes me sadder than I can say.

Dylan


PS the name Glynny - according to the urban dictionary - refers to a person who has succesfully ****** a milf - so we have all been had
 
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Sad times indeed. :(

On a positive note :) I've found the ignore button and sent my first complaint to the admin team about a poster. I hope they review the posters activity and take appropriate action on that user ID.

On a more general note I have always found the information passed in here of great value. Understand the views of others is always good.
 
Dylan

I think you are spending too much time on these fora! Glynny may enjoy his multiple persona but he managed to spark debate, good information and opportunities for posters to recount their own experiences. As for slagging off innocent companies - forumites are quick to get in with their own good experiences if they feel criticism is unjustified and may end up doing the companies more good than harm.
Some of us are guilty of posting to provoke debate in a mischievous manner (surely not!) that some others may regard as trolling. The results are usually positive as I think the responses to Glynny's posts were.
 
Dylandwinter

Good post and interesting comments.

Shows how difficult it is for the moderators when names are called.

We all want warnings of dodgy companies and bad service but not get YBW into problems.
 
Dylandwinter

Good post and interesting comments.

Shows how difficult it is for the moderators when names are called.

We all want warnings of dodgy companies and bad service but not get YBW into problems.

Err, or any false accusations on perfectly good companies, please. That is certainly beyind the pale. It goes well beyond mischievous & into slanderous behaviour.
 
I agree

Dylan

I think you are spending too much time on these fora! Glynny may enjoy his multiple persona but he managed to spark debate, good information and opportunities for posters to recount their own experiences. As for slagging off innocent companies - forumites are quick to get in with their own good experiences if they feel criticism is unjustified and may end up doing the companies more good than harm.
Some of us are guilty of posting to provoke debate in a mischievous manner (surely not!) that some others may regard as trolling. The results are usually positive as I think the responses to Glynny's posts were.

I do use the fora for information - and entertainment

I am a freelance hack and generally work at home. My video computer sometimes takes five or ten minutes to render a sequence so I get lots of gaps in my work

and there is a limit to how intersted I can be in yet anothe rfilm about a local factory

in the old days video editors used to smoke roll-ups while waiting for their machines to catch up

I do have a rule in that I never double post to bump a thread back to the top and if some-one asks me a direct question I will answer it.

The fact that some of the threads I have started have gone on way to long is not really down to me

it might suggest that I am a troll or

it might suggest that they are intersting subjects

and that helps to inform my journalism.

It gives me a clue as to what to follow and what to avoid and certainly some of my columns have been inspired by threads on here

I only post on subjects that are of interest to me - and clearly some of them are of interest to other sailors. If you want to regard that as being a troll... then so be it

as for blackeneing the name of innocent and perfectly good companies such as boatshed and boatbreakers just for a bit of a laugh

well I don't think it was a bit of a laugh

It smells of some-one in the trade attempting to blacken the name of rival companies

I think that to come on here and claim to be looking for a boat to take disabled people sailing is a pretty low show - unless it is true. In which case I apologise


the fora are only as good as the people on them

Dylan
 
Can I raise the issue of people posting verbatim the contents of Private Messages ? It should not be done. At all.

Even if the contents are inflammatory, rude, slanderous, libellous, or whatever.

They are PRIVATE messages. Without that epithet, one might as well post every comment between consenting (or otherwise) forumites on the thread as an open post.
 
you are quite correct

Can I raise the issue of people posting verbatim the contents of Private Messages ? It should not be done. At all.

Even if the contents are inflammatory, rude, slanderous, libellous, or whatever.

They are PRIVATE messages. Without that epithet, one might as well post every comment between consenting (or otherwise) forumites on the thread as an open post.

all gone

obviously a much larger sin than telling fibs about respectable boat traders but in the interests of avoiding excessive thread drift

dylan
 
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Can I raise the issue of people posting verbatim the contents of Private Messages ? It should not be done. At all.

I'm not sure I agree. After all, there's nothing to stop someone publishing the contents of a letter you send them. The situation is exactly the same. They're "private" in the sense that they're sent to one person rather than the whole forum, that's all.

(Not that I've ever had any need or desire to publish messages I've received, or any particular reason for ones I've sent to be confidential)

You could argue copyright issues, I guess, but I assume that's not what you're getting at.

Pete
 
Can I raise the issue of people posting verbatim the contents of Private Messages ? It should not be done. At all.

Even if the contents are inflammatory, rude, slanderous, libellous, or whatever.

They are PRIVATE messages. Without that epithet, one might as well post every comment between consenting (or otherwise) forumites on the thread as an open post.

I disagree strongly, that is a charter for bullying & abuse by PM.

Most of the pm's I have had have stayed private because they are private conversations, or personal details & of no interest to others. But there is a strong case for "Publishing in the Public Interest" as I believe Dylan did. For me it was useful & very revealing to hear Glynny's point of view & exposed his behaviour as non-legitimate to me.

I have in the past been invited to continue a "discussion" by PM, but I will never do that. I am happy that what I post is open for publication. You may not agree with me, that's fine, but I will not want stuff I am prepared to post to be kept secret.

I want an end to PM bullying & would encourage others to report or repost any aggressive pms they may receive.
 
I'm not sure I agree. After all, there's nothing to stop someone publishing the contents of a letter you send them. The situation is exactly the same. They're "private" in the sense that they're sent to one person rather than the whole forum, that's all.

(Not that I've ever had any need or desire to publish messages I've received, or any particular reason for ones I've sent to be confidential)

You could argue copyright issues, I guess, but I assume that's not what you're getting at.

Pete

I think that if you feel the content of a pm would have a wider appeal it would be a courtesy to ask the permission first of the person who sent it. Otherwise private means private.
 
Quite possibly it is someone who was fired for, well, who knows why...?
Quite how you suss when someone comes back with a new name and possibly from another IP address I wouldn't know

Now, about this rip off shop I know near me. All I wanted was forkhandles for me toggles...
 
PS the name Glynny - according to the urban dictionary - refers to a person who has succesfully ****** a milf - so we have all been had

No comment on the rest of this but would point out that Urban Dictionary is not the most reliable source of info, consisting mostly of definitions that people have put in under the names of their friends/enemies, vis:

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=dylan
 
I disagree strongly, that is a charter for bullying & abuse by PM.

Most of the pm's I have had have stayed private because they are private conversations, or personal details & of no interest to others. But there is a strong case for "Publishing in the Public Interest" as I believe Dylan did. For me it was useful & very revealing to hear Glynny's point of view & exposed his behaviour as non-legitimate to me.

I have in the past been invited to continue a "discussion" by PM, but I will never do that. I am happy that what I post is open for publication. You may not agree with me, that's fine, but I will not want stuff I am prepared to post to be kept secret.

I want an end to PM bullying & would encourage others to report or repost any aggressive pms they may receive.

Do people really feel threatened by a bullying pm? Interesting.
 
No comment on the rest of this but would point out that Urban Dictionary is not the most reliable source of info, consisting mostly of definitions that people have put in under the names of their friends/enemies, vis:

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=dylan

It is ABSOLUTELY reliable. Here's what is says about my name :

An extraordinary man with the most lovely bedroom eyes, an absurdly seductive grin, and beautiful brown hair that always smells absolutely wonderful. He is always warm, and ticklish in a few places that make him twitch cutely. He has great legs, nice muscles, and large feet and hands. He is strong, handsome, sexy, and beautiful. He is intelligent, absolutely hilarious, loving, teasing, sweet, and thoughtful. He leads a very intense life and proves himself to be very hardy in doing so. He hides any hint of pain very well, and rarely opens up, but when he does he shows just how strong he really is. He is loved more than he'll ever realize. He is perfect in every way.

er... except for the hair colour!
 
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