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I find, and you can agree or disagree with me, thats your choice /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif and its more fun sometimes to have loads of both, but back to the question, [yes Powerskipper asking AGAIN]

Do you find that you judge and are judged [hate that wording] but can't think of another way of putting it at mo, By who you are rather that what you own when its comes to boating /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif

thinkingabouthidingbehindsofaatmoJulie
 
Never concerned about what other people think about me ... what I own is immaterial and what I have is two very dfferent things ... and very few get's to know the latter ... /forums/images/graemlins/cool.gif /forums/images/graemlins/cool.gif /forums/images/graemlins/cool.gif

Who I am is more important .... and obviously I am a slighlty shy, modest male at 6'2", broad sholdered and blond with Norwegain Viking blood in my vains.... but currently in disguise for obvious reasons...
 
How does what is owned define a person please? I mean, how shallow & crass an idea is that for judging character? Does money = good? Does old = quality? Does flash = clever?

Doesn't make ANY sense to me. I judge people by what they do & how they behave towards others. Courtesy is a good start. Helpfulness is nice too.
 
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I find, and you can agree or disagree with me, ...

[/ QUOTE ]How could we?
What you actually find is apparently lost somewhere in your question (which are actually 2 questions, I reckon).
 
well I never said it would be easy /forums/images/graemlins/laugh.gif

I think what I am trying to ask or say is that [please execs the cleeyshay[can't find spelling for it, ]] but that every one is in the same boat and every one is the same while boating, and most are very friendly
 
Do unto others as you would do unto yourself
judge others as you would judge yourself

translation

If you like an individual you will like them for themselves rather than what they own or not
 
'Cliche' /forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif Yup, you gotta take people as you find them.. Met a bloke last year with a flash new boat and special edition very very flash car.. turned out to be a bit up himself. Met another guy whilst looking at his for sale (scruffy) boat - really nice guy, turns out he owns an airline!

You are not defined by what you own! And that cuts both ways...
 
Having returned to the UK after an absence of 18 years, (no I was not serving time in a foreign jail) I found the exact opposite, my own personal views are, that, I found in general people here are judged by what car they drive, and far more important than the car is the number plate thats on it, when you ask what car do you drive? 99 out of a 100 the answer will be on the lines of I've got 07 plate Saab or 56 plate rover, sad B's that they are, The label is king here, Nike, BMW, yachty cloths thingy's, alcock and brown,or is it Henri Lloyd,Hugo boss,etc etc.

as to boating,I found (IMHO) that sailors and motor boaters, in the main will not mix very well, I make this assumption on the basis that I am only one of three motor boaters in a sailing club where the majority are sailors and to try to hold a conversation with them is as about as much fun as pulling teeth they hate the idea of a 10mtr mobo on one of their moorings, the only time they seem to be pleased to see me is when we lift in and out because we share the cost of the crane and to be frank they probably don't give a [--word removed--] who I am or what I do, having said all that, I do have a really good sailor friend, hes got a 13 mtre French Beneteau very nice boat.
 
Are you trying to tell us something?

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thinkingabouthidingbehind so faatmoJulie

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<exit at a sprint>

Andy
 
My sentiments entirely! I looked round the show at new shiny versions of my boat and wondered how the extra 200K was going to give me more fun. Fun factor is the key! I have seen familys on boats costing very little having a ball when you turn your head 90 degrees and see a miserable git on his new 60 footer red faced and screaming down his mobile at the marina office cos the berth holder car park is full and he`s had to park his Bentley in the councill estate next door. Whos having more fun?
I think the Family with the 5K binny are the winners here--and probably have alot more friends.
 
Julie--sorry for the fred dwift there. I`ve had big and small boats, sail and power over the last 25 years and generally speaking have not had anyone treating me as a lesser or greater person by the size or type of boat I own. What they thought though may have been different!
 
I have a small boat but hope I have a big heart.

The big boat owners I have met have equally large, if not bigger hearts.

Great bunch of instant friends.
 
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well I never said it would be easy

[/ QUOTE ]Yup, in fact I find it easier to reply to the original question than to your latter additional explanation!... /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif

"you judge [1] and are judged [2] ... by who you are rather that what you own"

[1] Both. And then some. I mean, what somebody thinks, his/her behaviour, the type of boat he/she owns or likes, how and where he/she prefers to cruise, and so forth.
They're all inputs to my "judgement" process. I can't actually understand what it means judging by the "being" alone, sounds a bit pharisaical to me.

[2] Again both, generally speaking. But on average the world we live in is leaning towards the "judging by what is owned" style as a unique criteria (which is obviously sad), and the boating world is no exception. Though maybe the Med boating environment might be a bit more extreme in this respect, compared to colder seas, where I guess that passion plays a higher role, compared to the wish to show off and to judge consequently.
 
Hi Julie I was asking friends the same question the other day at SIBs and we all decided that by and large the boating community sail and power was pretty easy going compared to other walks of life. We had all made friends with all types wealthy and less wealthy, and all seem to share one thing in common - the love of the sea and boating. Like anything in life there are snobs around at both ends of the spectrum but I think your more likely to see all walks of life mixing in a marina than you would on a polo field or a football match.
 
It is generally small minded people who judge based on appearance / things owned rather than looking further.

Classic a couple of years ago I met a friend after work for a drink.

He looked scruffy always is, me in dark blue suit , white shirt tie etc

We both went to the bar at the same time I got served straight away.

He owns his own company earns in a year what I will earn in a lifetime as a middle ranking corporate salary slave....

Never judge a book by its cover another bl--dy cliche. Friend came over from the states to introduce her, she came across as a complete brainless blond californian bimbo, horrified as he said she ran all his finances. Turned out to be the finance vp of a pharms company - felt a real plonker.

who cares what anybody has if we enjoy what we have and don't envy those with more but can share in their delight with what they have
 
In some ways, definitely Yes!

Remember that picture a couple of weeks ago of a £20 Squillion 'Designer superyacht' in all differing Qubism colours that looked like it had been painted by Picasso?
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I immediately 'judged' that owner as having more money then sense with completely no taste! /forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif

But in the main, no I don't think there's much judgement on the coast.
BUT, up the Thames? It's a real case of, 'My Boat is Bigga than Yows." /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif
 
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