This Doesn't Mean That I Swing That Way

[CodStewart]

This Doesn\'t Mean That I Swing That Way

Okay. I am now officially single. Some of you might be familiar with my story. I fell in love with a bloke on the net. We had 7 months of love and a shared dream to sail around the world. We found a boat. And then the love ended and I still have the boat.
Thing is, I'm pretty much a novice sailor but I still want to sail around the world. I'm also a new non-believer in true love being out there and so wish to have female skippers and crew to help me along. I'm sure I'll learn faster now that I've been put in this rather sad situation, andI find myself rising to the challenge and it seems that there are plenty of folks out there who'd like to get on boats, and my boat is such a flush decked stunner that it shouldn't be too much of a problem finding interested parties.
Oh, but alas, it's such a shame that this adventure couldn't have been made with a man who I loved.
I considered giving the boat to the ex but then thought about my dream and I cannot give up on a life on the sea just because I got a broken heart. As wise folks say, time always heals.
Well, ja ne.

 

[CodStewart]

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[powerskipper]

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keep your chin up, there are a few lady sailors out there, what area are you in, as someone on here mite know someone who could help. /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif

 

[CodStewart]

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I'm in Japan!!! And the boat is in Mexico!

 

[CodStewart]

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I might wash my hair tonight......

 

[mirabriani]

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You need a best friend to talk to.
Perhaps some one on the forum?

Do things
Keep busy
Do not make sudden decisions
Chin up

Regards Briani

 

[Abigail]

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Hi there - sorry things are still very miserable.

I'm sure there are women sailors in both Japan and mexico. There are also a number of all women sailing schools in the US (do a google) if you could find cash and time to do a cruise there. This would introduce you too lots of sailing women who might want to sail in more 'exotic' (to them) locations.

And you never know - you might find true love with a woman!

 

[CodStewart]

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Thanks for all the kind words. I'm rather thinking that my true love rests with Yoda the cat. About the courses, I certainly need to study a hell of a lot about engines and electrics but these are things that I will accomplism with aplomb and confidence. It's quite an energising challenge to be a woman with a boat!
Thanks again for the kind words.
Ja ne.

 

[BrandonB]

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Well it seems to me maybe you need to think about swinging that way due to your recent lack of success with men and your alcohol problem. As a Christian, I suppose I ought not to say that, but maybe it would make you happy, and happiness is the best gift you can give yourself.

 

[tome]

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I hope you'll not think I'm being a plonker when I post this, as I've read your blog and tried to understand where you're coming from. I think you need to find an inner peace which is missing in your life. I get the impression that you need to stop drinking and start thinking. I say this because you seem to have a lot of regret, eg the finger up to your boyfriends mama.

Italian families are very self-contained and integrated. They will defend each other to the death and I quite admire them for this. You will see generations living together and to enter this enclave you have to earn your place. My impression is that you failed to understand this and attempted to wrench your boyfried away rather than seek to establish your corner in the family.

Good luck for the future, but spend a few evenings without booze and reflect.

 

[tcm]

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Hm but i always saw codstewart as our (current) resident web nutter, so i enjoy the mad postings, gratuitous personal info and quirky signoffs. In reality i expect she works at a building society in Southampton.

 

[tome]

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What, do you mean her real name is Jane but she's come into a lot of spaces?

 

[CodStewart]

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I'm not really an alcoholic! That's just a by-line!
Sigh! A building society. Shame on you. I'm FILTH, for godsake!

 

[BrendanS]

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quite agree. Very good fun, and not instantly irritating like Noah.

 

[MapisM]

Italian families

Thanks for admiring them, generally speaking...
Interesting viewpoint, anyway. Is that supported by some facts/statistics?
I could think of quite some Italian families for which your description is perfect, but I know at least an equivalent (or probably higher) number of families which should rather be described in the opposite way.
Most of them, I'd classify somewhere in between.
Of course, from the statistical viewpoint my own experience is not a "representative sample", but on average, I wouldn't see big differences in this respect between Italy and most other "latin" countries: Spain, France, Greece, most south american countries, ...
I'd agree on some degree of difference with northern-EU countries, though. And also with the US.
But not so much with many far east countries, just as another example.
Waddyathink?

 

[tome]

Re: Italian families

To be fair, I was generalising somewhat.

I was fortunate to spend a year or so working in Italy (Rome) and loved the experience. I met many families and my impression was that they were close over several generations. I learned enough of the language to be welcomed into their homes, and I can honestly say that I still feel a little homesick for Italy and love to visit. My wife and I spent our honeymoon in the bay of Naples.

I have also spent time in the far east, especially Indonesia and agree with your observations. If you want to say that Italy has problems, I would not disagree.

But it will always be a very special place for me

 

[CodStewart]

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I did try. It was my idea to visit them in March of this year instead of going off on one of my adventures. Thing is, this dream with the boat was our dream and was one that we made come true despite my ex being encouraged to work in a post office by his mother. We get the boat and suddenly there's new pride in their son, at the expense of ignoring the hard work that I put into making the dream come true. My inability to speak their language and vice versa, left many things unsaid that should have been said. I would have liked a bit more credit but instead it was the son who was 'magnificant'.

 

[tome]

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It's not easy to understand bella figura. Better luck next time, eh?

 

[ShipsWoofy]

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Is France really Latin?

 

[BrendanS]

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Eeks! Don't do this. Please don't post normally and explain. Enigmatic posts and wonderful blog far better than rational normal human peep