I’m off cruising BUT She says, “I ain’t coming.”

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I’m off cruising BUT She says, “I ain’t coming.”

I’m off cruising BUT, She says she’s not coming. Not because she doesn't like sailing or is frightened in fact its the contrary, she really enjoys it, but only for a week or two and the odd weekend.
I guess that it’s just not a women thing to leave it all behind and take a risk?
Is it the women that holds back our adventurous spirit? How many off us would be off if our partners had the same calling?
I’m offering to visit (anchor off) some of the most glamorous and beautiful places in the world in a safe and comfortable yacht and I might have to share the hole experience with a bunch sad single single-handed men...Like Me!
Or am I wrong?..........Have you found the perfect women sailor?....Where did you find her ?... And has she got a sister?

Replies must have NOT have any reference to dating agency's... Unless there good ones.

John.

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Wot u moaning about, John. If you're off to exotic locations, the last thing you want on board is SWMBO - she'll cramp yer style no end!!! Sail away and enjoy!

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Look on the bright side. No one to say" mind that buoy" or " the weather looks like rain" or "I feel sick" or "I wish I was back home in my lovely house"
Then there is the fact that you can choose the priorities of your ideal yacht, such as good windward performance, better sails, less headroom, basic below. Do the washing up when you feel like it.
Think of the floating caravan you might otherwise own.
Regards Briani

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Maybe you could both compromise - SWMBO promises to give it a go for one year (or whatever) if you promise to move back on land at the end of the year if she doesn't like it. If you can't compromise and you really want to do this then you need to balance the importance of living your dream against the importance of your relationship. Not wishing to add to your problems but have you considered how you might feel in 5/10/?? years time if you don't go cruising because of SWMBO?

I introduced my other half to sailing and she's now as keen as I am to live an 'alternative' lifestyle while visiting some fantastic places - many of which we'll almost certainly never see if we don't go sailing. We're now two years away from achieving our dream and are in the process of gaining more experience and 're-aligning our assets', etc. I also lost 3 friends in an accident in 1999 and know of others who have died prematurely. It all helps to concentrates the mind and make the decision to go much easier. I know it's a cliché but life really is too short. Go for it.

Best of luck.

Bill

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Johnboy, you must wake up.



Female crew looking for a Captain
« Thread started on: Dec 21st, 2003, 5:43pm »

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Fit fun female, 40, currently living in Barcelona (Spain). Brunette, dark eyes, seeking sailing adventures (June- September 2004), as part of a team or as a companion. I sailed last year for 3 weeks, not a great experience but I'm keen, inquisitive, willing to learn and .... can cook . Non-smoker and occasional drinker. Fluent in English and Spanish with some knowledge of Italian and French.
If interested please contact me for further details, thank you.

Fairwinds


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Fun female couple looking to crew starting Aug/Sep
« Thread started on: May 24th, 2004, 3:49pm »

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My gilrfriend and I are looking to get on a boat at the end of the summer (August/September). We live in San Diego but are will to start and finish just about anywhere. We are fun, adventurous and love to live life. I have some experience crewing on a 50ft sailing charter boat out of Puerto Rico and I'm a divemaster (possibly an instructor by sail time). My girlfriend is a lifeguard and EMT and is eager to learn to crew. We're flexible and open to ideas. Email me at ccanepa@hotmail.com
Thanks.
Carisa Canepa

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Johnboy,

Erica something sounds like a female too.

Lots of Experience. Crew: California to Canada?
« Thread started on: May 7th, 2004, 05:57am »

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I've been teaching sailing in Thailand for the last year, and will be flying into San Diego in Mid June. I'm looking for a lift up the coast to Canada sometime after that.

I'm young (27), fit, hard working, and competent. Looking for a bit of experience in the Pacific!

My timing is fairly flexible. If you're heading my way, please get in contact.




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Johnboy, are you in a wheelchair? Get going!! :-)))


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Competent Crew & Good Company avail for E Coast
« Thread started on: Jun 1st, 2004, 10:45am »

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Hi, I am available to crew on your boat north of New York - I am an experienced bluewater cruiser - 2 atlantic crossings + + + (with my own boat) and am looking for experience in the colder waters. Non-smoker, fit and healthy with no fixed plans this summer.

check my website : www.freewebs.com/krissteyn/

email : krissteyn@hotmail.com

cel phone : 410 271 8434
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OK! ENOUGH ENOUGH! YOU ARE RIGHT.
SHE OFF PLAYING GOLF NOW ANYWAY


NEW POST ....................FEMALE CREW WANTED SOON.......
Cheers Tim now what trouble Im in.

John ,single, big............. boat!

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I have had much the same discussions with my other half, she also does not want to go, so the compromise we have decided upon for when the time comes to take off is that she will just fly out to meet me for a few weeks or a month in some of the nicer places to cruise and then fly back again. In the meantime she will continue to top up the bank account to keep the whole thing afloat, which I think is fairly reasonable considering all the hard work put in to get out there.
I get the distinct impression from the kids that the boat will be used as mobile holiday accommodation by them and their friends and it comes complete with its own skipper. But hey the bits in between will be nice and peaceful.


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I am intending to go long-distance cruising, but I agree it is often more the man who wants to go. My partner is at this moment heading for the rias of Northern Spain and then perhaps on to the Azores, before turning for home. And I get left behind to do the work on our 'new' boat. But have you considered going initially in short hops of a week or two, and coming home for brief periods. Then when she discovers that the careful arrangements you have made for the security and maintenance of the family home is working well, she will be prepared to go for longer and longer stretches.
I am sure that SHMBO wouldn't want you heading off into the wild blue yonder with some nubile floozie as company.

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What's the difference between a boat and a wife?
It takes one hell of wife to beat no wife at all!

John

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Be thankful for what you\'ve got

"Not because she doesn't like sailing or is frightened in fact its the contrary, she really enjoys it, but only for a week or two and the odd weekend."

Johnnyboy, thats a week or two and the odd weekend more than my SWMBO would ever wish to spend on a boat!

OK, so see you soon on the sad, singlehanded cruise of the world! Whats the first port of call?

Chris



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Re: I’m off cruising BUT She says, “I ain’t coming

I replied seperately to this on the liveaboard list where you posted the same thing.

Maybe if you'd rather go without her than stay/short hops with her - then she's right to want to stay at home!

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