How can I find a mature lady to come sailing with me?

[Daydream believer]

Nothing to deal wih healing as far as my wife is concerned. She just finds the whole affair boring. The last time was a trip from ostend when the wind finally went to 40+ kts & she complained that the cards ( she was down below playing patience to fill in the time) kept sliding sideways & she kept getting banged about.That was it, she had had enough." Get me off this b..dy boat NOW!!""""
As for short tacking - we have a self taking jib & any request to come on deck & trim any sails meets with a lot of huffing and puffing.
She loves meeting me in port & spending holidays somewhere. We often do this in Ostend & have spent up to a month there & as much as 6 weeks in the Dutch canals.

Cost does not come into it as it does not affect her way of life (golf) plus, when I proposed ( & she has never forgotten in 45 years the actual words) I included :-
"marry me, marry my boat" It was the best contract I have ever made

 

[Seajet]

The RYA runs all sorts of courses, but I wonder if they should also provide a short course leading to a certificate for people to be a ‘Competent passenger’ on a sailing boat. It would widen the number of people who could enjoy sailing. As it is, I suspect that a lack of knowing what to expect and may be expected of a ‘Competent Passenger’, leaves people apprehensive enough to decline an opportunity to travel on a yacht.

I don't think it needs an RYA course !

I took a platonic lady friend for a sail recently, she's very bright but a novice re boats; as with all newbies I gave her a lifejacket to wear - she happened to take it when offered and modern ones are comfortable.

So I gave her a quick rundown on how to work it inc manual if the auto failed, mouth tube, and deflation tab which most people forget but could be crucial.

On the boat I showed her the anchor in its locker, the engine gears, throttle and killchord, fire extinguishers, the sail sheets and the handheld VHF.

One has to judge these things, I happen to believe some sort of safety briefing is essential and seamanlike but some women may be put off or frightened.

In this case all info was gratefully received, and I do think having some idea how things work, say if I went over the side or had a heart attack etc, is a considerable boost to a novices' confidence and enjoyment, nobody likes feeling out of control.

 

[eclecticjoy]

There are a lot of creepy single men and women everywhere, nothing to be afraid of, just be aware. With sailing you're life may depend on this other person so you need to do your due diligence.
I'm a single female, 58, I don't smoke and rarely drink. I have all my own gear, life vest, tethers, MOB beacon, marine radio, sailing knife, headlamp, foul weather gear, etc.
I enjoy provisioning and cooking, although I do tend to do more comfort foods and I think bacon is a major food group

I have letters of recommendation from past boats including the Cal 40 I helped crew from Hawaii to San Francisco last July.
If anyone is looking for someone to sail with May-Dec 2019 feel free to message me.

 

[colingh]

Thanks for responding to my original question that was posed several years ago. A lot of sand has fallen through the hour-glass since then and I’m now 74 years old. Despite being fit and healthy, this suggests to me that a lady 18 years younger than me would possibly think that I’m a boring old fart, given that I can’t offer the more interesting character defect of being creepy.

About five years ago, I managed to identify a half-a-peanut sized tumour in my colon that a sub-contracted Consultant hadn’t noticed during a routine inspection of my colon. The NHS whipped it out before it could become life threatening. Not wanting to trust to luck again, I discovered that I may have developed the tumour due to my enjoyment of bacon. It’s now off the menu and it would not be fun to smell the wonderful aroma of somebody else frying it near me.

Sadly, whilst I’m flattered that you contacted me, the above reasons as well as my enjoyment of sitting in the cockpit with two cans of low alcohol beer at the end of the day, whilst having a cigarette as the sun goes down, suggest that sailing together would rapidly become a matter of enforced silent polite courtesy.

Thank you.

Colin.

 

[Poignard]

There are a lot of creepy single men and women everywhere, nothing to be afraid of, just be aware. With sailing you're life may depend on this other person so you need to do your due diligence.
I'm a single female, 58, I don't smoke and rarely drink. I have all my own gear, life vest, tethers, MOB beacon, marine radio, sailing knife, headlamp, foul weather gear, etc.
I enjoy provisioning and cooking, although I do tend to do more comfort foods and I think bacon is a major food group

I have letters of recommendation from past boats including the Cal 40 I helped crew from Hawaii to San Francisco last July.
If anyone is looking for someone to sail with May-Dec 2019 feel free to message me.

You sound frighteningly competent! I fear having someone like you aboard would soon lead to me feeling I was no longer master of my own vessel or, even worse, that I was not fit to occupy that rôle.

Anyway, good luck with your search :encouragement:

 

[PaulRainbow]

Sadly, whilst I’m flattered that you contacted me

Unless you have also had a PM, this lady did not contact you Colin. She's made a post on a public forum, to say "If anyone is looking for someone to sail with May-Dec 2019 feel free to message me."

 

[Lloydroberts]

I think Colin may have had his tongue firmly planted in his cheek when he replied.

It brought out a smile.....which isn't easy these days.

 

[eclecticjoy]

Loved your reply, you're a hoot!