A different view of ocean voyaging

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Years ago went onboard a 28foot ocean cruiser a family ofthe,man and wife and a 10 year old daughter, It struck me as sad this girl who didn’t seem very happy,taking children sailing certainlyneeds thought as indeed they may not be so enthused by beingon a boat away from their friends and shore life
 

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Just read this. It's basically what my family thinks we are doing- spending months at sea, never meeting other kid boats, risking serious injury and dangerous weather, eating ships' biscuits...

Times have moved on. Sailing is easier and safer than ever before. There are more families sailing and, so long as you make a modicum of effort, it's not hard to arrange to meet up. You'd have to make a conscious choice to keep your kids isolated.
 

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Reading again the article I get the impression the parents had quite serious mental problems……circumstances have changed with more voyaging families but the attitude of the mother and her blind following of the husband raises questions of cruelty and abandonment
 

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Our local handyman, drove tractors, JCB, laid tarmac etc. He sailed round the world as a kid, said he loathed every minute of it and never wanted to set foot on a boat ever again.
Always remember his remarks, I was getting ready to say how wonderful etc etc.
 

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We weren’t sailors but we led a very nomadic life....it suits some people not others...I remember this woman complaining that all her life’s problems were due to the fact she moved when she was young...once!...I can’t actually remember how many schools I attended ....then again my brother went off the rails🤷‍♂️
 

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We weren’t sailors but we led a very nomadic life....it suits some people not others...I remember this woman complaining that all her life’s problems were due to the fact she moved when she was young...once!...I can’t actually remember how many schools I attended ....then again my brother went off the rails🤷‍♂️

I think my brother would say the reverse was true in our family 😁
 

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If you spend your life in therapy or at least contemplating your navel...it will always be your parents fault...and even if true (as in my case) they were merely products of their parents
 

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And then there was Laura Dekker, who after many years of cruising with her parents, set off to become the youngest person to circumnavigate single-handed.
Probably could not face returning to society :(
Even as an occasional SH sailor, I sometimes do not want to stop. When I first went round Uk I really wanted to carry on & go round again. A wierd feeling. I wanted to see the family, but did not want to stop. I asked my friend about this straight after he finished his lap. He thought about it for a minute & suddenly admitted that he could have quite easily not have stopped once in the rhythm. He did not want the hassle of going home to regular life. Like me, he had only been away a few months.
I have been told that people doing the early clipper round the world events, found it difficult to readjust to coming home. So Laura Dekker probably felt happier at sea than on land, where she had to deal with a different social life.
 
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Probably could not face returning to society :(
Even as an occasional SH sailor, I sometimes do not want to stop. When I first went round Uk I really wanted to carry on & go round again. A wierd feeling. I wanted to see the family, but did not want to stop. I asked my friend about this straight after he finished his lap. He thought about it for a minute & suddenly admitted that he could have quite easily not have stopped once in the rhythm. He did not want the hassle of going home to regular life. Like me, he had only been away a few months.
I have been told that people doing the early clipper round the world events, found it difficult to readjust to coming home. So Laura Dekker probably felt happier at sea than on land, where she had to deal with a different social life.
Probably should be called the "Moitessier effect", from wikipedia.org/wiki/Bernard_Moitessier
 

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Probably could not face returning to society :(
Even as an occasional SH sailor, I sometimes do not want to stop. When I first went round Uk I really wanted to carry on & go round again. A wierd feeling. I wanted to see the family, but did not want to stop. I asked my friend about this straight after he finished his lap. He thought about it for a minute & suddenly admitted that he could have quite easily not have stopped once in the rhythm. He did not want the hassle of going home to regular life. Like me, he had only been away a few months.
I have been told that people doing the early clipper round the world events, found it difficult to readjust to coming home. So Laura Dekker probably felt happier at sea than on land, where she had to deal with a different social life.
Funny, it was our son who said he didn't want the passage to end whilst we were crossing the Atlantic. It might have had something to do with knowing that school would restart...
 

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The inspiration can come in strange ways. #1 Daughter has been sailing with us since she was a foetus. 24 years later, she's just come back from Plymouth, viewing yachts to buy her own one, liveaboard and sail round Britain. Over dinner a while ago, she (out of the blue) wondered where her adventurous streak had come from. I had to explain: 23 years ago, In June 2000, we were in the Cafe/Bar in QAB at one table. At the very next table was Ellen McArthur and her support crew, the night before EM setoff with Kingfisher for the start of a solo Transatlantic record. (Plymouth to Newport in 14 days, 23 hours, 11 minutes). Anyway, while we were minding our own business at our table, #1 Daughter, in a nappy and growbag, had crawled away from us, gone under EM's table, and EM gave a surprise look at something tugging at her toes under the table. #1 Daughter had literally touched the feet of a sailing God! There may have been a divine spark between them. :)
 

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The inspiration can come in strange ways. #1 Daughter has been sailing with us since she was a foetus. 24 years later, she's just come back from Plymouth, viewing yachts to buy her own one, liveaboard and sail round Britain. Over dinner a while ago, she (out of the blue) wondered where her adventurous streak had come from. I had to explain: 23 years ago, In June 2000, we were in the Cafe/Bar in QAB at one table. At the very next table was Ellen McArthur and her support crew, the night before EM setoff with Kingfisher for the start of a solo Transatlantic record. (Plymouth to Newport in 14 days, 23 hours, 11 minutes). Anyway, while we were minding our own business at our table, #1 Daughter, in a nappy and growbag, had crawled away from us, gone under EM's table, and EM gave a surprise look at something tugging at her toes under the table. #1 Daughter had literally touched the feet of a sailing God! There may have been a divine spark between them. :)
Not necessarily the right location, but maybe, just maybe this free boat might be all she needs?
A Free Boat, in Panama
 

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If you have 3 kids it will suit one of them very well, another OK with it, the third doesn't like it. So what do you do with their lives? Nothing? That's everything not just sailing. Then there's the grass is greener effect. You can never prove suburban life and a local comprehensive would have been less to their liking so a negative minded kid can always claim they are hard done by, by the choice you made for them. The whole point of therapy is working through their childhood trauma so that's bound to find some or the therapists all become unemployed.

It could be that this lady's parents ignored that she was living a life of pure misery as she's making out, I'm tending to think there would have been ups and downs and she's dramatising the downs, and going opposite to the usual expectation for effect and book sales. I hope no parents are put off by her whining.
 
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