Even offered to sell the boat

[Johnjo]

Well just as well share my woes with all on here. it seems several here are already affected by the same thing....

She up and left five weeks ago, and i had a letter from her two days ago saying its over, today she rang me, i tried to talk my way back into her life but to no avail, even offered to sell the boat so we could spend more time together, but she said "keep the boat" which is just as well as im going to have to live somewhere.

Anybody ever over wintered on a 27 foot sailboat, should imagine its going to be bloody cold !....its a Sabre27, cramped yes, but they are roomy for their length, so no doubt i will survive...... i hope.... so if you happen to be in the River Fal stop and have a chat and a coffee,hopefully i will still be sane....

Just got to get some form of heating installed, suppose if i use gas for heating it will run with water inside.....

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[PIGLETSDREAM]

Sorry to hear of your trouble, at the ripe old age of 50 I moved onto a 70ft Narrowboat as a result of a divorce. It was great, providing you like your own company and are not to materialistic. Keeping warm is important and whilst not practical for you, I had a lovely wood burning stove that provided heat and water. Unfortunately I had a fire two months ago lost everything and very nearly my own life. Short circuit in the engine room.

Be positive, you will aprreciate your surroundings and will be more in touch with nature.

I wish you well

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[Tomsk]

If you can't have your wife back, then I would look at living on the boat as a boon! Great life, get on with it! I move on board permanently next week.. and that's in the cold North West..

If you are in a marina with shore power then cheap (25 quid) oil filled electric heaters are excellent! I have just one on a 26 footer and it's toasting in winter!

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[Johnjo]

To be honest i spent so much time on board i might have just as well lived on her, thought that might have been what her problem was, but sadly not..

No shore power, on a swinging mooring, usually lay her up ashore for the winter,but this year she will be staying afloat as the lay-up facilities i use have a strict no live aboard rule..

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[Tomsk]

I don't know the area down there too well... is there no local marina that you can get into for the winter months?

Failing that, there isn't much other than diesel heaters which, though superb, can be a bit pricey..

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[dralex]

I know Plymouth Yacht Haven do pretty good rates for wintering there. Not sure if it's too far up for you. they also charge by the month.

Alex

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[Neraida]

Like the others, sorry to hear of your woes, however, with regards to winter, save up your pennies and slink into a marina for the winter. Its safer, warmer (with elastictrickery) and a helluva lot more practical for the chilly months.

If it isnt what you want/can to do, keep an eye on ebay for a 12V eberspacher and a decent sized dory/cuddy with a 25ish hp engine. the dory will need a spray hood... Runs ashore when its horrible are downright dangerous in the winter, so make your transport too and from the boat as safe as poss.... and get a personal epirb too...

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[castaway]

Er... Just as a matter of interest why does yr wife leaving mean that you have to live on yr boat.

Particularly in Cornwall there must be plenty of off season rental property? Thats even assuming you dont have a house to sell up and split the cash from..

I would think that the absolute worst thing you could do is to live on a boat on a swinging mooring..isolated/cold /boring/also you would very soon get that "living on the boat look" that the people at work would notice... I would say that if you really need the cash.. sell the boat.. make a new life... get sailing with some of yr mates on the forum and move forward.

I prob dont sound very sympathetic, but dont let yr wife have the house, and you take the boat. Good luck, and look forward not back.. lots of benefits to not having women around when they start to get troublesome. Good luck Nick

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[halcyon]

Sorry to her it Mike, but you still have Mr Thomas to Thursday nights to look foreward to.
Our boats previous owner's lived on board, with not to much trouble, but they installed a diesel stove and a fair bit of insulation.
Are you planning to use the compound?, Ponsharden were we are has a lot of live aboards, you can have electric, there is toilet (?) and showers.

Brian

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[Johnjo]

Cause we have a 13 yr old son and the house is hers as the boat and car are mine.
thats the way it is......

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[DavidofMersea]

As I said about two weeks ago, when the person before last had his wife leave, two weeks after my wife left, without even looking I met a sailing blue eyed blonde nymphomaniac who is 22 years younger than me - I thought all my birthdays had come at once - my wife did me a favour - and may I wish you the same

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[castaway]

If you had left your wife after the period of time you have been together, even if you had been the original owner of the property your wife / partner would have had rights to a share of that property.

Bloody tough tho.. I hope it all turns out OK for you.. Regds Nick

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[Johnjo]

Thanks Nick
and all for the support and advice, Yes Nick i do realise that i have a claim
on the house, but my son has to live somewhere, so there is little point in making a claim all it will do is make matters worse, at the moment we have agreed on joint custody and unlimited access to him, so why spoil it for a few pounds which i will not recieve for years. "seems little point to me" and who knows what the future holds in store at least we have started talking again and when you can talk there is hope of a reconciliation, but im not keeping my fingers crossed.

regards to all, mike


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[Johnjo]

Brian
One can only take so much of Mr Thomas and the way my head is at the moment it would be very little..but please do not tell him that...

No not going into the compound this winter as there is a strict no live aboard policy in place, but im interested in Ponsarden, can you pm me more details..

thanks mike

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[halcyon]

OK sent

Brian

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[Birdseye]

Sadly, in this world, the reasonable and the thoughtful often get trodden on. Particularly when the other partner gets got at by the lawyer. So giving up your right to half share will not necessarily mean any better treatment in other areas. And it probably wont help with the CSA either.

Looking after your own interests isnt being unfriendly.

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