Etiquette on cost-sharing with guests

[DazedConfused]

As mentioned i would never take money for day trips or even weekends if sticking around the Solent as moorings is minimal and fuel would be used anyway. Even on some longer trips i may or may not take any money, depends on how i'm feeling really or if they came aboard holding gifts for there beloved skipper. Most people come aboard with a case of wine or so and maybe some food which i think works better that way.

As with small cruisers having no supplies to cater for unplanned guest is no excuse. Everyone should at the least have a drink and day snacks on board regardless of the size of boat.

Anyone see's me about the Solent is more than welcome aboard and will be greated with a nice beveridge at ANY time of day or night!

 

[Nat]

I just apply a simple rule. If I invite someone I dont expect them to pay anything.
But I have never had anybody turn up empty handed ie wine, beer. food ect
If they ask. they pay the expenses & I always tell them the approx cost beforehand so no one gets a nasty suprise. As others have said few people realise how much fuel a MB uses.....Nat

 

[Wiggo]

There's usually a fair bit of cash to be found in wallets and purses after they've passed out drinking your boat dry. If they ever question it, just remind them about the rounds they were buying in the lap dancing bar...

 

[itsonlymoney]

Would'nt take money for fuel etc but if they did not make a gesture by bringing a bottle of wine and or paying for a meal in the evening they would not get invited back.
Ian

 

[telmate]

Prior to owning my own boat I used to go out on a friend's boat and together with other guests offer to split the mooring, fuel and food costs. This was always accepted by the owner and we were all happy to pay.
Now that I have my own boat I do not expect my guests to contribute although more often than not they like to pay for a meal or bar bill and that's always accepted!

 

[mjf]

Yep, i reckon a nice bottle on arrival and the dinner tab to guests account.


Unless its tcm's boat then just a plastic bottle of vino blonko and offer a Pret a Manger to share.

 

[Planty]

Agree entirely, we had delightful guests this weekend, had others that I really haven't enough energy to invite again.

We have a visitors book on board, interesting to read, the delightful guests comments are brilliant, others just "Thanks," Reminds one who to extend invites to and who not! Paul

 

[Vagabond]

So where am I going wrong ….

I keep trying to explain to my girlfriend that as I provide the boat then maybe she should provide some food etc … she's now moved form being a guest to being crew
Is this unreasonable?

I still end up being fed by my mates at the weekends as the cupboards are bare apart from the emergency Fray Bentos tinned pies!

 

[oldgit]

Must confess that having been out for the day,much prefer my guests clear off pronto ish,leaving me with a quiet 10 mins alone with the boat to enable me to just fettle this and fondle that while being able to run me eye over everthing that moves to watch for any future expensive repairs which undoubtedly lurk just round the corner.Part of the days pleasure is pressing that last dzus clip on the cover and walking away up the jetty with the last of the ebb flowing past and the sun just about to go below the horizon silhouetting the ..............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................power station next to the oil refinery and the sewage plant. etc etc.......................

 

[Forbsie]

Woz that you that did that??? /forums/images/graemlins/mad.gif

 

[BrendanS]

tis all those ....... that he put in.

 

[tcm]

Re: Etiquette on mjf\'s boat

1. Arrive on boat, and attempt to catch up with others already on board already v sloshed.

2. Continue drinking until crate of wine all gone, about an hour or so.

3. Send out kids to retrieve more wine from other boats, and continue till late afternoon.

4. Neighbour provides entertainment by accurtately back his transom under mjf's anchor on the bow, in order to make slicing marks on his own transom, repeatedly.

5. Somehow, get roped in to fix another boat's macerator. Obligingly help out due to too much wine. It works!

6. Meanwhile, swmbo in a bit of a state lets rip at aforementioned neighbour about his rubbish parking, and gets marched back to crash out.

7. Can't remember anything else. Didn't i end up cleaning the teak or summink?

 

[mjf]

Re: Etiquette on mjf\'s boat

Yes and all this before we left port!


PS: Are you available to redo the teak please - its about the right time of year for the annual tcm scrub?

 

[tcm]

Re: Etiquette on mjf\'s boat

yeah ok. Come up the hamble v early on saturday and exchange some of your dodgy wine for a chemical battering. ch16