Ashes.

[Graham_Wright]

My daughter's partner died tragically from the dreaded cancer leaving her and their two sons.

With many years on various oceans as a third (?) second and chief engineer, he wished his ashes to be scattered on the sea.

As boaty member of the the family, I have been charged with chartering a boat out of Whitby (his favourite holiday haunt in the UK) for the ceremony.

The family prefers not to have a skipper My ticket qualifies me up to 80gt.

Can anyone please advise on how to proceed? My internet searches have proved unhelpful.

 

[mjf]

My daughter's partner died tragically from the dreaded cancer leaving her and their two sons.

With many years on various oceans as a third (?) second and chief engineer, he wished his ashes to be scattered on the sea.

As boaty member of the the family, I have been charged with chartering a boat out of Whitby (his favourite holiday haunt in the UK) for the ceremony.

The family prefers not to have a skipper My ticket qualifies me up to 80gt.

Can anyone please advise on how to proceed? My internet searches have proved unhelpful.

Thats a tough one as clearly you will need a bareboat charter on the N Sea coast.

Lots of the shippered charter boats on the solent do this work so its quite common to take a charterered shippered jobbie.

Skipper I guess stay on the helm whilst the family do the necessary aft

Just make sure the wind is blowing in the right direction - years ago I attended one such event and the person doing the honours got a bit emotional and 'went too early' - shocking result..

 

[volvopaul]

My father died in 1999, we had just bought another boat, princess 388 2 weeks prior to his death.

We kept his ashes till the spring and took him to Alum bay where he lies in one of his favourite places.

I can fully understand how your family feels, if we were on the east coast I would gladly take you all out and dissapear while you take your special moment to remember him.

 

[Searush]

When my Dad died, it took some time before we got the ashes back after the cremation (several months) partly because my brother, who made the arrangements for the funeral thought that the ashes bit "was creepy".

Anyway I persuaded him & his wife and a couple of the Grandkids (late teens & adults) that we should do a short remembrance for him on his next birthday & scatter the ashes in the Mersey where he spent all his life & loved to walk alongside.

It was a very moving experience, we sought no permissions & simply emptied a handfull of ashes into the river from a slipway at high tide after a short poem & soliloquy from 2 of the g-kids. The next wave splashed the ashes back on my shoes & we decided he was still teasing us.

Anyway, my point is - just do it. You don't have to use all the ashes - we also scattered some in other favourite places quietly (including our own garden) and you don't have to be out at sea. After the cremation, the ashes can be scattered for you in a garden of remembrance or you can have them in an urn to keep or scatter as you wish. Some people may see pollution issues, but I doubt the quantities concerned will really cause a problem.

Decide what you would LIKE to do in his memory, and then just do it. Our club regularly does "sail past" scattering ceremonies with a local Vicar for past members, but it doesn't need to be that formal or widely attended.

 

[AndieMac]

When my Dad died, it took some time before we got the ashes back after the cremation (several months) partly because my brother, who made the arrangements for the funeral thought that the ashes bit "was creepy".

Anyway I persuaded him & his wife and a couple of the Grandkids (late teens & adults) that we should do a short remembrance for him on his next birthday & scatter the ashes in the Mersey where he spent all his life & loved to walk alongside.

It was a very moving experience, we sought no permissions & simply emptied a handfull of ashes into the river from a slipway at high tide after a short poem & soliloquy from 2 of the g-kids. The next wave splashed the ashes back on my shoes & we decided he was still teasing us.

Anyway, my point is - just do it. You don't have to use all the ashes - we also scattered some in other favourite places quietly (including our own garden) and you don't have to be out at sea. After the cremation, the ashes can be scattered for you in a garden of remembrance or you can have them in an urn to keep or scatter as you wish. Some people may see pollution issues, but I doubt the quantities concerned will really cause a problem.

Decide what you would LIKE to do in his memory, and then just do it. Our club regularly does "sail past" scattering ceremonies with a local Vicar for past members, but it doesn't need to be that formal or widely attended.

Very well put sir.....