Am I overreacting?

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We are sat on our boat at the marina and SWMBO says that there are people on the boat opposite that don't own it. They had gained entry to the Nimbus by opening the rear canvas and were moving about inside.
SWMBO thought that maybe they were looking after it for the owners.
However, when they emerged they said that the boat was the same as theirs and they were looking at how the canvas was fixed.
I said that it wasn't right to go onto boats not owned by them, but they justified it by saying that nobody was onboard.
I'm quite shocked by this and by their total indifference to my concern. Should non-owners not seek permission of owners before going on a boat not belonging to them. Am I overreacting?
 
Chamaerops said:
. . . Am I overreacting?
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I don't think so. Overreacting would have been to call in air strikes on them. Any less is reasonable indignation at their cheek.

I wouldn't expect to find someone in my house seeing how we had built the conservatory any more than these people checking out that boat.
 
I agree , whats surprising is that they are boaters. I’m used to watching people walk along the docks while their children jump on the boats. I don’t even like to see people jump on the along side boat to help themselves tie up
 
Bloody cheek! If you'd have see them poking around my boat, I'd be very grateful that you'd challenged them. Not an over reaction at all.
Good on you.
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Poking around someone else's boat underneath the canvas without the owners permission is completely out of order.

You were right to challenge them.
 
It's a problem everywhere, in our major tourism centres I've seen signs with drawings included for non-English speakers, to not get onto the pontoon moored boats. It's seems the worst random offenders are parents letting children play on them.
One live-aboard boat owner I remember, after having kids running over his deck, emerged from down below and asked the parents where they lived, they questioned why, and he replied: "so I can come to your place and run over your roof"...
 
You should report the matter to the marina. It seems to me the intruders may not have been telling you the truth.
 
First off, you were 100% correct, and good on you for challenging them.

At the risk of sounding like I am getting on my soap box, unfortunately to my mind, this post, this is a microcosm of the world we are living in today. Here we have some people showing a total lack of respect for other people’s property and all responses to the OPs question has confirmed they did the right thing and I am sure 100% of people who have read this post, but not responded, feel the same. As others have said, their excuse / reason sounds like total tosh, and even if it were true, I would hazard a guess that “seeing how xxx fitted” could easily translate into “our xxx is broken and so I have come on here to nick a replacement”.

We were at SBS 2 years ago sitting on a lovely Sunseeker chatting to one of the salesmen around the cockpit table. All of a sudden, two children arrived on board and took a running jump onto the sunpad and we all sat open mouthed, expecting that father to come on and say something to them.... he didn’t..... and actually did the same as them ! The salesman had to say “excuse me Sir but this boat has been sold, please show some respect to the owner”.... not a flicker of guilt or an apology.
 
Andy Bav said:
We were at SBS 2 years ago sitting on a lovely Sunseeker chatting to one of the salesmen around the cockpit table. All of a sudden, two children arrived on board and took a running jump onto the sunpad and we all sat open mouthed, expecting that father to come on and say something to them.... he didn’t..... and actually did the same as them !
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I think that's a little different - at the boat show the boats are presented to the public as being part of the attraction, not anybody's private property, and to those not in the know it's not particularly clear what the expected etiquette should be.

In the OP's situation, though, going on board an unoccupied boat to examine the internal fixings of a canopy is not acceptable - and I would go as far as to suspect that that might be an excuse rather than the real reason.

Pete
 
prv said:
I think that's a little different - at the boat show the boats are presented to the public as being part of the attraction, not anybody's private property, and to those not in the know it's not particularly clear what the expected etiquette should be.

In the OP's situation, though, going on board an unoccupied boat to examine the internal fixings of a canopy is not acceptable - and I would go as far as to suspect that that might be an excuse rather than the real reason.

Pete
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I would say that if they were boaters they would have the courtesy to ask the owners who would most likely be more than happy to show them on board and discuss what they wanted to know, this should be reported to marina who should really check cctv to identify the people incase they had other intentions and got onto another boat without being spotted.
 
Unless the 'intruders' knew the owner/had previous permission, I would be thinking this is thieving. Some thieves are opportunist, others plan, where, when, how. I could give you examples. Your reaction was definitely NOT an overaction. I would like you to have taken some images and discretely observed where they then went. If they saw you 'observe' you so much the better. If my suspicions are right they would decide to look elsewhere. If my suspicions are wrong they still should not have gone on board. How many forumites would have done that? None I think.
 
simonfraser said:
when i was looking for the next boat and mooching round boat yards there were plenty of boats for sale with a notice on the side, no one about.
i did climb on / in those and had a minor look to see if it was of interest, what do you guys recon ?
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I would not go on without permission.
 
simonfraser said:
def not over reacting.

bit of a drift, when i was looking for the next boat and mooching round boat yards there were plenty of boats for sale with a notice on the side, no one about.
i did climb on / in those and had a minor look to see if it was of interest, what do you guys recon ?
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For me that's a no-no. To walk around the pontoon to have a look-see is fine. Then, if you like what you see, make an appointment to view properly. Ours is up for sale & I would expect the above to apply if I wasn't around to help. If I turned up & found some unaccompanied stranger onboard, I'd be pretty pissed off to say the least.
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A friend of mine was the engineer on a boat moored in Puerto Banus. Whilst he was on watch one evening he noticed two couples walking down the passerelle onto the aft deck. Unfortunately by the time he got from the crew mess to the aft deck they were on board taking seflies, the women were wearing stiletto heels. I will let you imagine the damage that did to the teak deck!!!
 
lisilou said:
For me that's a no-no. To walk around the pontoon to have a look-see is fine. Then, if you like what you see, make an appointment to view properly. Ours is up for sale & I would expect the above to apply if I wasn't around to help. If I turned up & found some unaccompanied stranger onboard, I'd be pretty pissed off to say the least.
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fair point, but i'd not want to waste the owners time if the inside, from what i could easily see was not for me.
not talking about breaking locks, lifting the floorboards etc. and i don't wear stilettos :)
 
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