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How are you all getting on with running your boats?.
Ok that sounds er weird.

Lets try again,

Do you all have your own rolls on your boats or do take it in turns to change rolls, ie, does one of you always helm and the other always do crewing!

Or do you change it around?.

It can bring a whole new adventure if you do. so who does a roll change ?
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My wife at the helm? I could show you pictures of her car if you like, that way you won't think I'm sexist or misogynist, but nooo. She likes being chauffeured anyway and she is a dab hand at the mooring warps but that is where it ends. She is quite capable of bringing the boat back should I have a heart attack and die, but berthing, no chance, she really really doesn't fancy the stress. Ram it up the beach was my advice.
 
Ditto to what BruceK said.. She has taken the helm once or twice at low speed in open water but is far happier relaxing, enjoying the ride and taking photos.. Of course that has it's own dangers, she was taking a video of us trying to raft up alongside another boat once and ended up falling down the step into the cabin because wasn't looking where she was walking.. :)
 
powerskipper said:
How are you all getting on with running your boats?.
Ok that sounds er weird.

Lets try again,

Do you all have your own rolls on your boats or do take it in turns to change rolls, ie, does one of you always helm and the other always do crewing!

Or do you change it around?.

It can bring a whole new adventure if you do. so who does a roll change ?
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Are these bread rolls?
 
Having your other half interested in taking part in your pastime has to be a good thing, my good lady is slowly learning the ropes literally but like most of us when we start out she lacks some confidence. I've offered her a 'go' on the helm but no (well not yet) offered to sign her up for a day with powerskipper (with or without me as crew) but again not yet. But it is our boat so time and my passion for using it will I hope gradually increase her confidence so she can get as much enjoyment out of it as I do {and I have to do less gardening duty}.
 
Really surprised at these replies. As we are nearly always 2 up, I hope my wife can come and get me when I fall overboard. Realistically on a typical run she casts off, sorts ropes and fenders, helms unless it is really bouncy and always walks off with ropes and cleats us off at the marina. If we are anchoring she is on the bow calling chain direction while I operate the winch from the wheelhouse. Increasingly she takes the boat out of its berth while I do the ropes. The only thing she doesn't yet fancy having a go at is bringing the boat onto the pontoon.
 
My wife is an excellent crew . I have learned to listen if she thinks I am getting it wrong.
I am not so good with handling ropes due to lack of practise.
I mostly do the steering but she has taken a few turns at the wheel and we have done some boat handling practice , quite a bit more so of late. The present boat is a lot easier to handle than the previous one . Electric throttles and twin engines helps a great deal.
I agree it is really quite important for both to be able to handle the boat and operate the vhf . What would happen in an emergency - medical or otherwise ?
 
My wife's role is to sit back, be driven, sun on her face, wind in her hair, whilst imagining herself to be Grace Kelly or some other 1950's starlet. She has zero interest in driving. My 18 year old daughter, on the other hand, likes driving very much and has done an RYC powerboat level II course, and is pretty good at most things - albeit that she hasn't done much in marinas.
 
Fantasie 19 said:
Yes, I do everything, and wife pretends the boat doesn't exist...

Had the boat three years now and wife hasn't even seen it, never mind stepped on it... no interest whatsoever..... :D
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My wife kind of warmed to the idea whilst we were cruising along the Thames but now its on the coast she's not so interested. Always saying she enjoys it to friends but doesn't want to constantly be going on it. (Fare enough, She hasn't even set foot on or seen it last year).
 
We both do it all between us, though I confess to being a little bored with driving except close quarters stuff now so SWMBO does most of the driving, come to that she does most of the navigation and planning too..... actually I am now more of a passenger.
 
We have not got room on our boat for two Rolls Royces, or any for that matter.

With reference to roles:
 I do the driving, navigating, weather assesment, mechanical bits, maintenance, buying liquid refreshment etc.

Mrs does the Mooring lines, catering (food), shore power cable and linen. During passage, she pot boy spots, sunbathes, reads or sleeps, in rough weather she lies on the floor with her eyes closed.

Mrs and a female friend both did competent crew, Mrs did it well, female friend learnt on the course all that could go wrong and inconvenience, maim or kill you.
 
Bandit said:
We have not got room on our boat for two Rolls Royces, or any for that matter.

With reference to roles:
 I do the driving, navigating, weather assesment, mechanical bits, maintenance, buying liquid refreshment etc.

Mrs does the Mooring lines, catering (food), shore power cable and linen. During passage, she pot buoy spots, sunbathes, reads or sleeps, in rough weather she lies on the floor with her eyes closed.

Mrs and a female friend both did competent crew, Mrs did it well, female friend learnt on the course all that could go wrong and inconvenience, maim or kill you.
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Fixed that for you ;) :p
 
She pretends she doesn't like it, but when I offered to sell to help fund prospective house purchase she said 'don't!'.

She's happy for me to be captain, as long as I do what I'm told. She's much better than me at throwing ropes and volunteered to pop into the engine room to check for water ingress after we hit something off Margate.

I once (rather hilariously, in my opinion) stepped off the boat at a lock layby and left her to it, fully aware that a load of male skippers from our yacht club were on the other side of the lock waiting to co e through - she aced it, perfect vessel control and brought to a perfect stop inches from the side in a perfect position. Round of applause from the yacht club and daggers shot at me!

Her only problem is lack of confidence, saying she's worried about scratching my boat. I keep telling her a) she won't, she handles the boat better than she's thinks she does and b) I've put so many scratches and dings in it anyway, another few won't hurt. I'm quite good at gelcoat repairs now!!!
 
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