Very hesitated in pulling the trigger

peterjaw

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Good day, guys,
As some of you may already know that I have been asking a lot of questions here about my first boat.
I also contacted some local dealers for many details of boats.

Finally, I ask one of the dealers to send me a script of contract. After some negotiations, the final version
is on my desk now.

However, I start to feel hesitated in pulling the trigger now. Nothing wrong with the boat nor the dealer, just
there are a devil and an angel in my mind.

Does anyone of you ever have similar experience? How did you go through this kind of situation?
 
You’ve come this far, you’ve done your homework, you’ve worked out the costs, its affordable, Its something you really want to do.
If you can answer yes to all of the above take a deep breath and go for it, you only live once!
 
I'd go the other way from Machaseo. Trust your instincts: if you sign up and the purchase and boat do not work out, you will always be unhappy. There are lots of of other boats which will ignite the passions unstoppably.
 
peterjaw said:
Good day, guys,
As some of you may already know that I have been asking a lot of questions here about my first boat.
I also contacted some local dealers for many details of boats.

Finally, I ask one of the dealers to send me a script of contract. After some negotiations, the final version
is on my desk now.

However, I start to feel hesitated in pulling the trigger now. Nothing wrong with the boat nor the dealer, just
there are a devil and an angel in my mind.

Does anyone of you ever have similar experience? How did you go through this kind of situation?
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Cannot think of single boat where at some point during and/or especially after purchase have not thought
"O gawd what have I done " as a series of visions of absolute disaster and abject poverty parade across the horizon.
None of which materialised, apart from the boats with outdrives :):):)

Reckon on a season before you retain karma and financial stability agin.
 
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How are you generally with making big decisions? Is it out of the ordinary for you to feel this way before committing to something big?
 
Peter, you might be asking the wrong people. Like asking a group of drunks if they want another drink:)
If the costs are not going to drown you then I would go for it. I think the boat you’ve chosen is a very good first boat, big enough to have a good time on her but relatively maintenance free to make your first ownership experience an enjoyable thing. The only advice I would give is to ask those in your family you are close to, especially the wife because she will either be the crew or a boating widow. If you are single and you have a boat you are a lucky guy;)
 
sarabande said:
I'd go the other way from Machaseo. Trust your instincts: if you sign up and the purchase and boat do not work out, you will always be unhappy. There are lots of of other boats which will ignite the passions unstoppably.
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I'd be in this school as well. You may have to wait a bit but one will come along that you'll want so much doubts will evaporate.
 
Thank you very much, guys.

I have had no experience about big decisions that make me swing in the air like this one. In my life, all big decisions like buying an apartment, "picking-up" the bride, thousands of thousands business contracts ...etc. never bother me that much.

I just feel guilty to spend that much on a "toy".
 
NO need for any feelings of guilt.

Some people spend that sort of money on a painting, or a smarter car, or a horse, or...


Your time on the boat will make make you a better person and give a lot of pleasure to those who come sailing with you.
 
I remember once feeling physically sick after I had taken delivery of a fairly stupid motorcycle. It didn't help that it was the end of December, dark, the roads were going to be like glass etc.

Next morning I woke up and walked into the garage and thought:

Woohoo!!!

And off I went.
 
I'd go the other way - if you don't need a boat above all else right now then don't buy one, just hire them often until that need becomes overwhelming or fades away. Most boats sit idle nearly all year after the novelty fades.
 
Hi Peter.

I have been lurking around this forum for a while and joined as I am soon going to be in the same position as you. So time for a first post.

At the end of February I would expect that my boat search will be properly under way and I won’t be far from experiencing the same feelings as you some time in March. It is something called “buyers remorse”.

Years ago when I was first training to sell computer software, the trainer gave me a very important piece of information. That was “Once the ink is on the contract, get out as quickly as possible”.

The reason for this is a common phenomenon called buyers remorse. This is where no matter how right the purchase, how strong the financial or business justification etc, a buyer can very quickly start to have irrational doubts /fears and want to backtrack. Whilst I would never have wanted to have a customer buy something they didn’t need or want, it is quite difficult to have that conversation before the ink is dry and fears are still high.

All I would say is have a look at this wiki link and see if you recognise any of the symptoms. If so, have a look at the long and arduous process you have been through since you first felt the urge to consider buying a boat, check your reasons to buy, check affordability (buy, run and maintain), check that you have found the right boat and have the support of the important people close to you for your decision. Once you have done that, make a final decision either way and be confident and ready to enjoy the benefits.

And most of all, good luck whatever you decide.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Buyer's_remorse
 
Had a similar experience many times when a project looks good - and works - on paper but when it-actually comes to the point when you have to part with the "non-refundable deposit", or whatever, and you think to yourself, " s**t this is it, I am actually doing it" and you get that feeling in the pit of your stomach. However, the first time you get any enjoyment from it you wonder what all the fuss was about.

Isnt the saying it takes 42 muscles to frown and 17 to smile ....
 
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