sarabande
Well-Known Member
Forum thoughts and suggestions welcome on the following scenario, please.
One and only child (aged >20
) is a competent sailor, though not hugely experienced, having done all her sailing with me as skipper up to the time she went to uni. Not experienced with outboards. Can read charts well, and good at pilotage (DofE Gold chitty for charging around the landscape safely). No formal RYA qualifications.
She now has a small keel boat, which I am preparing for launch next weekend. The boat is 19ft OA, 2ft draught, encapsulated ballast in long keel. After a few hours joint sailing trials and familiarisation, I am intending to let her loose on her own in a tidal estuary while I tremble on the shore. She is extremely independent, and very determined to go sailing solo, and with her friends in due course.
I am a great believer in check lists, having spent many years writing them for use in disaster response. There is a temptation to laminate a few check lists
e.g.
Arriving on board
Safety and working kit check
Preparing to sail
Leaving the mooring
Under way
Col Regs
Comms
Emergencies
Returning to the mooring
Leaving the boat
and then let her out solo to potter for a couple of hours, then half a day, and so on.
My other life as a schoolie tells me that nothing teaches like experience, so if I am reasonably happy that she can make the boat go in the direction she wants, keep out of other people's way, and know when to ask for help or advice, then I should 'just' let her go, and go and find a book to read till she returns.
How do other parents undertake the transition from a child being a crewperson, to being in charge of a small sailing boat and disappearing, if not off to the horizon, then around the bay ?
Are checklists are distillation of years of experience, a very present help in trouble, an annoying link to and reminder of parents, an imposition of regulatory land-based authority, or a hindrance to learning at first hand ?
Or should I take up gardening ?
One and only child (aged >20
She now has a small keel boat, which I am preparing for launch next weekend. The boat is 19ft OA, 2ft draught, encapsulated ballast in long keel. After a few hours joint sailing trials and familiarisation, I am intending to let her loose on her own in a tidal estuary while I tremble on the shore. She is extremely independent, and very determined to go sailing solo, and with her friends in due course.
I am a great believer in check lists, having spent many years writing them for use in disaster response. There is a temptation to laminate a few check lists
e.g.
Arriving on board
Safety and working kit check
Preparing to sail
Leaving the mooring
Under way
Col Regs
Comms
Emergencies
Returning to the mooring
Leaving the boat
and then let her out solo to potter for a couple of hours, then half a day, and so on.
My other life as a schoolie tells me that nothing teaches like experience, so if I am reasonably happy that she can make the boat go in the direction she wants, keep out of other people's way, and know when to ask for help or advice, then I should 'just' let her go, and go and find a book to read till she returns.
How do other parents undertake the transition from a child being a crewperson, to being in charge of a small sailing boat and disappearing, if not off to the horizon, then around the bay ?
Are checklists are distillation of years of experience, a very present help in trouble, an annoying link to and reminder of parents, an imposition of regulatory land-based authority, or a hindrance to learning at first hand ?
Or should I take up gardening ?