jfm
Well-Known Member
I don't agree. Each to their own of course but you are dancing around handbags there until you get to the "which I found a little frustrating...". I repeat that it's an each to their own matter but I prefer to think straight and talk straight and when I read something like what you wrote I think "oh just say what you mean man!" I've (politely but firmly) chucked handbag dance arounders out of my office many times and told them to come back in ten mins and say exactly what they think, when they've decided what that is. If something is a bit 7 out of 10 then just say so. It's not an insult nor a put down. It's just a point of view and op is completely free whether to act on it or ignore it. Anyway, just saying, and I'm happy to agree to disagree.Contructive coments are by definition ones designed to build things up, not break them down. They let the recpient know that you are on their side and can be delivered without having to pull any punches. So for example, 'Michiel has set out his objectives clearly and compiled some well structured, sequentially logical questions. While the survey requires a good mix of fixed and open responses, there are some sections which, as a respondant, I found a little frustrating; not least question x for reason y. Maybe a better way to ask this question would be.....'
I agree, straight talk is perfectly fine, but in this case its uncomfortably juxtaposed with the term constuctive....