Overcome by a wave

Seajet said:
Sad comment there; I think the phrase is 'courtesy costs nothing' !

I give a quick 'thanks' wave if I'm going across a Zebra crossing and people stop for me.
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Likewise. Nothing dramatic, but a nod of acknowledgement or discreet lifting of the hand helps remind us that we're all human beings.

I live on a Victorian street with nowhere to park cars except on the road, so there's only a narrow gap down the middle and you need to cooperate with other drivers to get by. I'm always a little disappointed in those who show no acknowledgement as they pass after I've pulled in for them.

Pete
 
prv said:
Likewise. Nothing dramatic, but a nod of acknowledgement or discreet lifting of the hand helps remind us that we're all human beings.

I live on a Victorian street with nowhere to park cars except on the road, so there's only a narrow gap down the middle and you need to cooperate with other drivers to get by. I'm always a little disappointed in those who show no acknowledgement as they pass after I've pulled in for them.

Pete
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Where we are, the absolute scourge of the narrow roads is women in 4X4's, never ever give way, never acknowledge any courtesy, just barrel straight on through at a stupid speed; if they're towing a horse box, the whole world has to give way then get stuck behind them for miles...

A secretary I knew kept some sort of Dobbin / soon to be UHU, and boasted about the traffic jams she caused, the more p'd off cars behind the better the score in her view...
 
Reptile Smile said:
I would no more thank some one for stopping for me on a zebra crossing than I would if they were stopped at a red light. It's the pedestrian's right of way - it's not optional!
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I think the key word here is "right". A rant follows - not really directed at you reptile but just at the attitude behind your phrase.

"It's my right" has to be a key reason for people's general tendency to become more and more horrible and selfish to each other. Totally misguided too, IMO, as it misses out the fact that those rights only happen if those around you are courteous enough to grant you those rights.

Just a little less thought about rights for you and your own family and a little more consideration on how others around you might be affected by your actions and we'd
have fewer dirty shoes on train seats, less aggressive driving, less loud and unhappy children, boring public mobile conversations and all those other things that turn close-packed living from a lively pleasure to a series of encounters with gits.
 
Like waving to other Land Rover owners, I've never understood the rationale behind waving at someone merely because they have (superficially, at any rate) similar interests to you.

Would you wave at someone in a supermarket because they buy the same brand of Baked Beans? or because somebody wears the same colour shirt?

Waving at a stranger in a boat - just because they're in a boat? Unfathomable - as is waving at trains..........
 
My goodness, I never expected this to be a debate on the wider deterioration of society, but some interesting takes on matters of courtesy.
Perhaps I'm spoiled by living in a small town where most people say 'Good morning' or 'Hello' to one another when walking to the local shops. I take the same approach when visiting bro in Fulham, London and chuckle at the responses.... being poilite there seems to be interpreted as a pre-curser to a mugging or rape!
 
I've copied this thread to Mrs Bluemoon. She thinks I only go sailing so I can wave at fellow boaters

The canal is is a funny place near here. Everyone acknowledges each other with a gruff "hi" - except for the fisherman who seem to be in a world of their own
 
I believe it is southern city living that turns people into evil, selfish, shits rather than happy fellow humans.

In the country (darkest Staffs/ Shrops borders) every one waves as you slow & move over (or stop) to pass on single track lanes. When walking the mutt I move onto the verge & call her to me, drivers also slow down out of courtesy & wave as they pass.

In southern cities like Bristol or London, talking to people at bus stops or as you pass one another in the street is seen as a threatening act. Fortunately, the inhabitants of places like Liverpool & Glasgow still behave like normal people.

Of course having something in common with another human being is an excellent reason to wave or even chat - in fact having nothing in common is also a good reason to wave or chat & learn about a different person's perspective.

Just what is up with all you miserable "won't wave, can't wave" southerners?
 
We always wave at everyone, even at ferries, police, pilot boats, fishermen et al. Seems just a social thing to do on the water. My parents always used to wave so its just been passed down and I hope my son and daughter continue !
 
zebra crossing etiquette

RupertW said:
I think the key word here is "right". A rant follows - not really directed at you reptile but just at the attitude behind your phrase.

"It's my right" has to be a key reason for people's general tendency to become more and more horrible and selfish to each other. Totally misguided too, IMO, as it misses out the fact that those rights only happen if those around you are courteous enough to grant you those rights.

Just a little less thought about rights for you and your own family and a little more consideration on how others around you might be affected by your actions and we'd
have fewer dirty shoes on train seats, less aggressive driving, less loud and unhappy children, boring public mobile conversations and all those other things that turn close-packed living from a lively pleasure to a series of encounters with gits.
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Quite possibly so, but I think what started this sub-thread was probably Fire 99's words 'when I let people across Xebra crossings', which might be read as implying a magnanimous action on his part when it's nothing really of the sort. Nothing wrong with acknowledging others for following the rules of course indeed it's good that we do do that.
 
Seatrout said:
Having been brought up on the water it was inbred to me to wave to fellow sailors as we pass. Such tradition marks respect and brother/sisterhood on the seas.
Over the last 2 seasons, I have noted with disappointment, more and more individual sailors while in eye contact at my wave, simply ignoring the gesture.
Am I that offensive to the human eye? Or, is there a new breed of sailor on the water?
I'd welcome comment from those who have experienced similar and also from those who refuse to reciprocate a wave.
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Are you on a motorboat? ;)

We find that we get more waves in the winter when there are less boats about. Nearly everyone I've waved to so far this year has waved back.
 
RupertW said:
I think the key word here is "right". A rant follows - not really directed at you reptile but just at the attitude behind your phrase.

"It's my right" has to be a key reason for people's general tendency to become more and more horrible and selfish to each other. Totally misguided too, IMO, as it misses out the fact that those rights only happen if those around you are courteous enough to grant you those rights.

Just a little less thought about rights for you and your own family and a little more consideration on how others around you might be affected by your actions and we'd
have fewer dirty shoes on train seats, less aggressive driving, less loud and unhappy children, boring public mobile conversations and all those other things that turn close-packed living from a lively pleasure to a series of encounters with gits.
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+ 1000 , I`m pretty fed up with all the selfish and inconsiderate people that seem to be out ther nowadays
BTW i allways wave :) .
 
I believe it is southern city living that turns people into evil, selfish, ****s rather than happy fellow humans
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Couldn't be more wrong - depths of East Anglia born & bred (nice to see stereoptypes alive & kicking...) - hate towns and even find villages claustrophopic. Just like my privacy and prefer to keep it that way...
 
This is drivel. Usually like your posts

Searush said:
I believe it is southern city living that turns people into evil, selfish, shits rather than happy fellow humans.

In the country (darkest Staffs/ Shrops borders) every one waves as you slow & move over (or stop) to pass on single track lanes. When walking the mutt I move onto the verge & call her to me, drivers also slow down out of courtesy & wave as they pass.

In southern cities like Bristol or London, talking to people at bus stops or as you pass one another in the street is seen as a threatening act. Fortunately, the inhabitants of places like Liverpool & Glasgow still behave like normal people.

Of course having something in common with another human being is an excellent reason to wave or even chat - in fact having nothing in common is also a good reason to wave or chat & learn about a different person's perspective.

Just what is up with all you miserable "won't wave, can't wave" southerners?
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We like waving....

...we think it is sociable and fun....In fact, as we wave...we often say something amongst ourselves that can`t be heard on the other boat.......such as:- "Hands up all those wearing dirty knickers"...and count the number of apparently positive responses on the waved at boat to each daft question.....and see who gets most `points`.... It often produces beaming smiles all round...but of course, the other boat does not know why.....but ..presumably just think that we are a bunch of happy sailors......which is correct.
 
We always wave ..

Sometimes a fist, but usually a hand. Almost always get it reciprocated wher we sail in Greece, particularly out of season with mostly other owners not charterers.

Always wave thanks after crossing at zebra crossing also.

The other day I said a cheery good morning to a neighbour that I hadnt spoken to before. He spluttered "hello" and quickly got into his car avoiding eye contact.
Cant wait to get back to the boat ...
 
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