New Year Resolutions - interesting conflict?

[NoviceRod]

Just seen this in the regular YBW email:
https://www.ybw.com/features/top-te...8_YBW-X_NWL_EO&utm_medium=email&utm_source=ET

Seems to be a conflict between Resolution #8 Make sure you are always safe and others are too

and #1 Spend more time on your boat

 

[Bouba]

And look at number nine;
(Ask to go on the boat of your dreams)
It says that the worst that can happen, is they will say no. The worst that can happen is that they shame you

 

[john_morris_uk]

And look at number nine;
(Ask to go on the boat of your dreams)
It says that the worst that can happen, is they will say no. The worst that can happen is that they shame you

What does ‘shame you’ mean? It’s an odd expression that I’m no sure I understand in this context. (It’s an odd expression in any context actually.)

 

[BruceK]

What's hard to understand? To humiliate you. If I were to walk on the boat of my dreams asking for a day trip, the owners would likely direct me to the galley to wash and polish their champaign glasses for the day.

 

[MapisM]

I'm more intrigued by the premise than by the suggestions, actually.
"most of us have a list of resolutions which get promptly shelved as soon as the new year starts".
Is that really true?

I can't remember to have ever had resolutions which I quickly shelved - and I'm saying this generically, not just for boating matters.
Maybe it's just a matter of resolving to do something doable, at the end of the day.
Sure, anyone can dream of winning the lottery, but calling that a resolution would be a stretch to say the least…

Well, on second thought, there is one recurrent resolution which I often shelved, and it's losing weight.
Maybe I should just call that a dream, and put it in the same category as the lottery win!

 

[Bouba]

I'm more intrigued by the premise than by the suggestions, actually.
"most of us have a list of resolutions which get promptly shelved as soon as the new year starts".
Is that really true?

I can't remember to have ever had resolutions which I quickly shelved - and I'm saying this generically, not just for boating matters.
Maybe it's just a matter of resolving to do something doable, at the end of the day.
Sure, anyone can dream of winning the lottery, but calling that a resolution would be a stretch to say the least…

Well, on second thought, there is one recurrent resolution which I often shelved, and it's losing weight.
Maybe I should just call that a dream, and put it in the same category as the lottery win!

The world is made of dreamers and doers. A quick look at your threads shows you are a doer. I, on the other hand, am a dreamer and I can’t remember the last resolution that I followed (indeed I can’t think of any job that I started that I actually finished, ask my wife)

 

[BruceK]

The world is made of dreamers and doers. A quick look at your threads shows you are a doer. I, on the other hand, am a dreamer and I can’t remember the last resolution that I followed (indeed I can’t think of any job that I started that I actually finished, ask my wife)

Nothing wrong with being Master of the Half Job. Duct tape, baling wire and WD40 made their inventors millions.

 

[john_morris_uk]

What's hard to understand? To humiliate you. If I were to walk on the boat of my dreams asking for a day trip, the owners would likely direct me to the galley to wash and polish their champaign glasses for the day.

Being humiliated is not the same as shame IMHO.

It would be rude to walk up to someones house and ask to be shown round.

Same with a large super yacht. You'd be stupid or lack social awareness to just walk up and ask the crew to show you round.

Shame is what you feel when you have done something wrong and you are found out. Its not an emotion describing how you feel when you make a social faux pas. That emotion is best described as embarrassment.

Poor use of English IMHO.

 

[Bouba]

Being humiliated is not the same as shame IMHO.

It would be rude to walk up to someones house and ask to be shown round.

Same with a large super yacht. You'd be stupid or lack social awareness to just walk up and ask the crew to show you round.

Shame is what you feel when you have done something wrong and you are found out. Its not an emotion describing how you feel when you make a social faux pas. That emotion is best described as embarrassment.

Poor use of English IMHO.

If poor use of English and putting a hitch on a cleat were my only faults, I would be a good man

 

[BruceK]

Being humiliated is not the same as shame IMHO.

It would be rude to walk up to someones house and ask to be shown round.

Same with a large super yacht. You'd be stupid or lack social awareness to just walk up and ask the crew to show you round.

Shame is what you feel when you have done something wrong and you are found out. Its not an emotion describing how you feel when you make a social faux pas. That emotion is best described as embarrassment.

Poor use of English IMHO.

Well by your own definition I think shame was a particularly good choice of word if I was so rude as to walk up to a super yacht and belch out a request for a day trip on the scrounge, yes? Yes! Shame on you for being so pedantic.

 

[john_morris_uk]

Well by your own definition I think shame was a particularly good choice of word if I was so rude as to walk up to a super yacht and belch out a request for a day trip on the scrounge, yes? Yes! Shame on you for being so pedantic.

In the words of a teenager. Whatever.

It was the original phrase I thought was odd and I still do. "They shame you". As if someone who says, 'No you may not come and visit our yacht' brings shame on you.

It's a bizarre notion that speaks about people's self image.

 

[NoviceRod]

Seems to be an interesting drift here.

My concern was the encouragement to wear lifejackets in #8, and the lack of one in #1

 

[BruceK]

You might want to look the word shame up for it's correct use and context.

Your change of tack lends itself to the impression you are not quite convinced yourself any more. And if you wish to be hip and quote a teenager the fashionable term for such a nonchalant passive aggressive retort is, whatever minger.

 

[BruceK]

Seems to be an interesting drift here.

My concern was the encouragement to wear lifejackets in #8, and the lack of one in #1

Have you ever seen a yottie in UK waters dressed like that. Pictures of them looking cold, wet and sulky do not sell well.

 

[john_morris_uk]

You might want to look the word shame up for it's correct use and context.

Your change of tack lends itself to the impression you are not quite convinced yourself any more. And if you wish to be hip and quote a teenager the fashionable term for such a nonchalant passive aggressive retort is, whatever minger.

My bad.

Nothing hip about me.