Negotiating with SWMBO to go sailing

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How often do forumites get an exit visa to go sailing and how often is being selfish. Should we even have to negotiate for an exit visa to go sailing? SWMBO is off to her elderly mothers for the weekend, I had planned a trip away onthe boat, nothing extreme just a night at anchor somewhere in the solent or chichester. Older daughter is now at uni, younger, 16. announces she is off to a sleep over but I am given a hard time for not staying behind to ferry her about, what is wrong with the money for a taxi and phone me when she gets there ( about 2 miles away) or am I selfish and should stay at home and polish the silver /forums/images/graemlins/frown.gif I have given up expecting the whole family to come sailing but happy to get away single handed if no one else will come.
 
Just do it and worry about the consequences/make it up to her afterwards. I've only got one woman in this house and that's bad enough, three, nightmare!
 
Stocking up on Brownie points beforehand doesn't really work. You have to make 'em happy when you come home. So, before you set off into the sunset for a long weekend's sail, pop the fuse out of the iron, tip some melted fat down the sink and feed the dog some ex-lax. Trust me, your devoted better half will be delighted to see you when you get back and put everything to rights.

(only kidding!)

(honest)
 
For some reason not yet established the start of the sailing season is greeted with forboding that our lives will be taken over. Therefore I am free to go sailing whenever I like as long as it doesn't impinge on whatever SWMBO wants to do (gardening, seeing her mother, etc). So I have had a great sail today with a retired friend whilst she shopped, cleaned and cooked in preparartion for her daughter and grandchild to come for the weekend. My return was not however the warmest welcome and the evening has been spent in fruitless discussion of things that I don't understand. Some people find being happy , retired and solvent difficult /forums/images/graemlins/frown.gif . I don't and had a great sail, roll on next time /forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif

PS if you find out what I did wrong, let me know. /forums/images/graemlins/confused.gif
 
no win situation - you could even offer to take daughter and friends sailing and would still be wrong............

extremely cunning plans - huge mistake; feel cheated/tricked

up front honest trade negotiations where win loose is win win but best is real consideration and attention for the other 364 days of the year...........or the missunderstanding ploy (not that I have ever played this one...)
 
At 16 she is old enough to get their under her own steam.
Kids have to realise at some point that you have a life too and the world does not revolve around them.
Independence is a good thing for kids to learn. Saying no can make them appreciate that getting a lift is a favour not an entitlement.
Your taxi/phone call plan sounds good to me.
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OK I 'll fetch the cheese /forums/images/graemlins/ooo.gif
 
I have no difficulty getting a sailing pass. "Get thee hence, and leave me the decent car" she says. I am required only to 'phone home regularly to prove I haven't drowned.

Getting her to come with me is another matter. Seems to have no confidence in me as skipper. Don't know why as haven't been wrecked yet.
 
Have you tried removing the 'B' from SWMBO?

No need to ask for an "exit pass" from a SWMO! /forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif
 
Dear dinosaurs.

Modern man must be more considerate (devious).

SWMBO may be a handy abbreviation but is as obvious a give-away of entrenched chauvinism as it ever was when I first remember Rumpole using it.

Lose this label

Enjoy sailing with your wife or girlfriend ( I still don't like the word partner)
Enthuse over the joy of having them share your hobby and how much it means to have them with you.
Carry on with this until they are ready to have a break from sailing and then, when they are committed to another happening at the weekend they will be only to glad to let you enjoy your extra bit of sailing without having to smile and pretend to enjoy it every week.
 
Would the forumites all please stand for the reading of the above post, to the backdrop of a dramatic playing of "Land of hope and glory"
 
JUST TELL SWMBO WHEN YOU ARE GOING SAILING

I have spent years being around for wife and kids, and indeed enjoyed going to school/sporty events etc. but now my time has come. At mid 50 I should have at least 10 years hard boating ahead with slightly less for the next 20 odd years with any luck. SWMBO would have me watching TV together and working in the garden WHICH I DETEST and wasteing my weekends.

I have now decided I am going to do what I want and that my standards of what is reasonable are balanced. Women are mainly (and I excluded some of the remarkable boating types on this forum) wimpish and lack any sense of adventure. I am still of the "I'll go camping" mentality which is what you need with most sub 30ft sailing boats anyway.

You live, and decide what you are goung to do, according to your own standards and don't be put off by women dear to you, who are actually playing on your affections and better nature, but who are actually taking you for a ride.

All the great adventurers in life did not get to do so by working it around what fitted in with their female relations diaries!
 
Seems to me this is a training issue. Spend a little time on it and you'll have no problems. SWMO's birthday last weekend. "What would you like to do", I asked. "Go to the boat", said she.

Properly trained. Sorted. /forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif


I'll just leave now before she notices this post.
 
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This may seem radical but how about taking her along?

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It would put a new twist to 'Getting-away-from-it-all'

Fortunately, if I wobble a glass half-filled with water anywhere near her, she gets gloriously seasick. /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif
 
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