Men are from Neptune, women are from 34 Acasia Drive.

Nostrodamus

Nostrodamus

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Over the last three years of living aboard and cruising we have met many single men sailing alone and many couples sailing together.
In nearly every case the women have been dragged along by husbands who want to live the dream.
The women seem to enjoy the social side, the summers and seeing new places but they rarely like the sailing or the winters. Given the choice I believe the vast majority would rather be sat in 34, Acasia Drive with the central heating on.
I may be wrong but that is how it seems from the people we met.
We also see couples returning back to the UK mainly because the lady of the boat just cannot cope with this lifestyle.
Maybe Binch should write a book.. Sell up and sail but don't take the wife.
Of course there are exceptions, but given the choice we have found that women would prefer to spend only the summers on the boat or even not go in the first place.
Why are men and women so different?
Are we men wrong to drag them along on our dreams or do I seem to be getting the wrong impression.
 
Reflects my experience and my personal situation.

So, I go off for the summer [when it happens] and we spend some weeks together cruising the pretty bits.
 
Gwylan said:
Reflects my experience and my personal situation.

So, I go off for the summer [when it happens] and we spend some weeks together cruising the pretty bits.
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Jill never goes near the boat between October and May

she will sail with me when it is hot

too hot to be ashore

outside of that she is not interested

and I can live with that

D
 
As long as the sanitary and washing situation is ok my wife will go to the ends of the earth on a sailing boat.In the cases I know the wife coming late to sailing just cannot get on with life aboard and has dislike of heeling and finds little of interest in life afloatmost of the time and possible fear the restof the time.In between is being bossed about by captain bligh at the helm ,in charge!
 
capnsensible said:
My missus is an Ocean Yachtmaster and has sailed across the atlantic 4 times :cool:
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but probably only because when she arrives at the other side she can't park the thing so prefers to sail straight back again - she's going to be out there a long time I think. Seriously, you're blessed with a wife like that, my experiences are much more akin to Nostros observations.

Cheers, Brian.
 
This is my situation - such that I bought a small boat that made no concessions to 'home' comforts because I knew that no matter how good a boat's bathroom and shower might be, Herself wouldn't spend any time on it - too cold in Ireland. Even the Greek charter holiday was only tolerated; even though I chose a bigger boat than needed, and a new shiny one at that. She's a very good swimmer, but didn't like to swim off the back of the boat in deep water - too many unknown dark shapes below! She did say that if the bottom was pure white sand (or better, white tiles) she'd be happier. We did a week on board and a week ashore, and she did enjoy the week in the hotel. I'm hoping to get a couple of mates together for a summer cruise in Irish waters...........
 
Nostrodamus said:
In nearly every case the women have been dragged along by husbands who want to live the dream.
Maybe Binch should write a book.. Sell up and sail but don't take the wife.
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I've heard this a lot, and it's really very sad for both partners. Fortunately, we both enjoy winters on the boat...whether out cruising on beautiful cold wintry days with empty waters, or snuggled up inside on cold windy days. Mind you, I've only ever been on modern boats with diesel heating and proper heads (i.e. with hot water shower). Praps if I had to rough it I might feel differently...but then, so would hubby - he likes his creature comforts too :)

Personally, I'm chomping at the bit to get our new boat and start living aboard (admittedly in the Med), probably more than hubby - lets hope I don't end up screaming and racing home to 34 Acacia Drive :p
 
men like caves and sheds; women don't. Their existence threatens the female hegemony over the domestic environment.
 
Nostrodamus said:
In nearly every case the women have been dragged along ......women would prefer to spend only the summers on the boat or even not go in the first place.....Are we men wrong to drag them along on our dreams or do I seem to be getting the wrong impression.
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As I read this I am being bullied into being 'dragged along' to a local hypermarket to collect some bagged garden compost and other gardening goodies. Now, we have three industrial 1100L wheely bins out the back filled with home-brewed compost. Why that won't do the job is beyond my understanding. Why oh why are men dragged unwillingly into garden management when there are boaty jobs lining up for attention...?
 
SHMO really enjoys the summer months (the few that we have these days) and is also quite happy to go sailing in the winter provided the central heating on the boat is working (usually is) and there is a good stock of movies / series for the media player - Oh, and I must not heel the boat over more than ~15° if avoidable and I really most not tighten her up (the boat that is) and put the guard rails in the wet stuff - that really pisses SHMO off no end.
Nearly forgot - I have to ensure there is plenty of fuel for the gen set just in case the CH packs up.
 
oldbilbo said:
As I read this I am being bullied into being 'dragged along' to a local hypermarket to collect some bagged garden compost and other gardening goodies. Now, we have three industrial 1100L wheely bins out the back filled with home-brewed compost. Why that won't do the job is beyond my understanding. Why oh why are men dragged unwillingly into garden management when there are boaty jobs lining up for attention...?
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I don't know but maybe Aldi have the answer on sale at rock bottom prices?
 
I think it's a common thing I konw there are some better halves who enjoy it but it's not that common. Mine has tried but she just doesn't enjoy it that much. She says there are other things she would prefer to be doing and that s fair enough. I can't think of many things I'd rather be doing. She doesn't stop me doing it so it works well. We even tried a sailing holiday last year on a 44 ft jeanneau in Majorca but it had to be followed by 4 nights in a 4* hotel. She enjoyed the sailing but liked the time ashore better and preferred the 4 nights in the hotel. At least she gave it a go but she says she wouldn't do it again.
 
oldbilbo said:
we have three industrial 1100L wheely bins out the back filled with home-brewed compost. Why that won't do the job is beyond my understanding. Why oh why are men dragged unwillingly into garden management when there are boaty jobs lining up for attention...?
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They will make approx 3 tons of compost

How big is your garden that you need more ?

Digging that in will take all summer, NO sailing for you this year :(
 
my late mother came to sailing late but when dad bought a cruiser she had to go along.She never was seasick,dad was and she always knew we should have anchoured there and not here.She was also good at navigation and had the annying trait of assuming that a boat on different corse was going to our destination,which it was.When she was too old to sail dad retired to the shed.
 
when SWMBO is out grafting, tip contents of wheelie bin compost maker into cement mixer, and add a little vermiculite and some sharp sand. Mix thoroughly, then tip out into trailer.

When SWMBO returns, present her with a bulk load of 'professional' compost, complete with little white grains of vermiculite and sand, which you just happened to pick up from a nursery you were passing.

Add house points to list and retire to boat to contemplate the boat's magnetic fields, including permanent, induced and transient.
 
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