I'm off crusing. BUT She says, "ain't coming".

[JOHNBOY]

I\'m off crusing. BUT She says, \"ain\'t coming\".

I’m off cruising BUT, She says she’s not coming. Not because she doesn't like sailing or is frightened in fact its the contrary, she really enjoys it, but only for a week or two and the odd weekend.
I guess that it’s just not a women thing to leave it all behind and take a risk?
Is it the women that holds back our adventurous spirit? How many off us would be off if our partners had the same calling?
I’m offering to visit (anchor off) some of the most glamorous and beautiful places in the world in a safe and comfortable yacht and I might have to share the hole experience with a bunch sad single single-handed men...Like Me!
Or am I wrong?..........Have you found the perfect women sailor?....Where did you find her ?... And has she got a sister?

Replies must have NOT have any reference to dating agency's... Unless there good ones.

John.

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[chris505]

Re: I\'m off crusing. BUT She says, "ain\'t coming".

Hi

We are going off next year once again, and I am the one pushing in this partnership to go. We women are not all short stay sailors, on the other hand think your self lucky your wife enjoys it when she does sail with you!.

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[chris505]

Re: I\'m off crusing. BUT She says, \"ain\'t coming\".

Hi

We are going off again next year and in this partnership I'm the one pushing to go. Think your self lucky your wife enjoys sailing when she does go with you!

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[ongolo]

Re: I\'m off crusing. BUT She says, \"ain\'t coming\".

Hi Johnyboy,

we discussed this on page 2 of liva-a-board link and my rely is on page two of "yachting personals".

There are societies they breed adventerous woman, maybe less so in central europe. Good woman are out there, they have usually less of a chance to go cruising alone, so they need a man with a boat.

When I searched, I had many addresses which I discarded. I found what I was searching for. If I had know, I would have kept addr, and passed them on.

I had contact with a 44 year old, I forgot the name but I know where she was from, and via that specific yacht club you could trace her. PM me for details and other tips.

One of the things, look for one that a) rides motor cycle b) loves camping and c) carries a knife. Then she is quite adventerous and may just not have ever thought of sailing. They are there - waiting.


http://www.ybw.com/cgi-bin/forums/s...page=1&view=collapsed&sb=5&o=93&part=all&vc=1

This the link to the thread.


regards ongolo


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[JOHNBOY]

Re: I\'m off crusing. BUT She says, \"ain\'t coming\".

I’m not so sure about a knife packing biker? I was thinking more of a sea loving goddess who knows all the stars.....Dreaming again!
But seriously, somethig as big as sailing round the world needs two very determined and likeminded people, my gut feeling is to set off and hope to find them somewhere????
Any Ideas where ?

Johnboy
PS not married.

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[ccscott49]

Re: I\'m off crusing. BUT She says, \"ain\'t coming\".

I'm not sad!! You can find women who are willing to cruise with you for a while, why buy one when you can rent a bunch?

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[Abigail]

Re: I\'m off crusing. BUT She says, \"ain\'t coming\".

Maybe there are plenty of women who would want to sail and long term - but have got more than tired of the 'joke' of SWMBO and all the attitudes it represents.

I know plenty of women already sailing long term with their partners, or well along the planning stage, but it does take a really different approach. There is plenty of good writing on the subject, to which I've posted references before on these forums.

As another poster says, be glad your wife wants to sail with you a bit and work up from there. Or - if you would rather go without her than stay/go smaller distances with her - maybe she's right to stay behind



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[JOHNBOY]

Re: I\'m off crusing. BUT She says, \"ain\'t coming\".

Not married but my girlfriend has sailed with me for 8 years covering well over 1000 miles. But to go away for a few years. THAT IS THE PROBLEM!
and she is right, I am taking a risk. BUT LIFE IS FOR LIVING!
Don't you think.
JOHNBOY

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[BigART]

Re: I\'m off crusing. BUT She says, \"ain\'t coming\".

Q: "Have you found the perfect women sailor?....Where did you find her ?... And has she got a sister?"

A: Yes, absolutely - Greece (a hostie on a flotilla sailing holiday company) - no

We are off on the long trip next year and are both looking forward to it. The day job/house/diesel banger car/etc are just tools to help towards paying for the boat and voyage. We were both introduced to sailing when young which probably helped. The spirited, adventurous ones are out there but get snapped up quickly.

Keep looking. Best of luck.

Angus



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[cocktail]

Re: I\'m off crusing. BUT She says, \"ain\'t coming\".

You are absolutely right life is for living.

I am not a knife wielding biker however I love the sailing life and would love the opportunity of sailing round the world. Without appearing sexist in my opinion it is harder for a woman to take off on her own and I suspect there are just as many female sailors as men looking for the right partner to share the dream with.


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[JOHNBOY]

Re: I\'m off crusing. BUT She says, \"ain\'t coming\".

If your not a knife packing biker the you must be a sea lovin; dreaming agian.
However,
The boats ready to go, I will be ready by the end of this year, but it looks like a solo start,just me and a few cocktails;
If your ever in Plymouth let me know and we can put some destinations to the dreams .
Johnboy
Patiki1@aol.com

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[smee]

Re: I\'m off crusing. BUT She says, \"ain\'t coming\".

Not all women are like that, think Tracey Edwards, Ellen Macarthur, and the other similar ones all clammering in their wakes (forgotten specific names!!).

I am female, have my own boat, and my ambition is to sail off round the world via the warm routes once I finally convince my, already found (but reticent) suitable bloke, to go with me!!

However despite this big ambition, I can also understand your wifes point of view, as I am now convinced that I won't be able to go in my 40ft and will have to get a 60fter as I really don't think I can do it without all my stuff which presently won't fit on 40ft boat. THe only way I could go on 40fter, would be to buy a flat to leave stuff in, and then would be a bit cheesed off if I got a thousand miles from home and found the book I wanted to read was ashore in flat, not on boat with me!!!

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[JOHNBOY]

Re: I\'m off crusing. BUT She says, \"ain\'t coming\".

If you don’t go in your 40 fter I doubt very much if you go at all. There are 1000s of people living aboard 26 ft boats and even smaller. Just take less stuff.
THIS IS EXACTLY THE POINT... IT IS THE DETERMINATION TO GO, THAT MAKE IT A REALITY. NOT BEING READY.
In this case all she has to do is step aboard, there will always be reasons why one should not.

I of next spring crewed up or NOT.

Johnboy



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[Melody]

Re: I\'m off crusing. BUT She says, \"ain\'t coming\".

I think you should think about why she doesn't want to go with you. Some women just don't like sailing, but it sounds as if this isn' t the case. Is she worried about leaving her friends/family and having no female social life, being out of touch? If so, she may be reassured by meeting other female sailors and talking to them.

You mention 'taking a risk'. Does she worry about you risking your life? Or maybe the risk is to do with money and career? If its safety she will gradually be reassured as your experience grows. If its the latter, you may just have totally different ideas of what life is for, and maybe she isn't the companion for you.

Lots of women are adventurous, but they don't all like an adventure.


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Yacht Valentine, Greece