I may well be a complete plonker!

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Mind you if you take her out in that and she loves it then you should marry her at once. She really would be one in a million

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You'll get very large odds on a non sailor of any gender enjoying sailing in the Solent this weekend.
 
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By twist of fate, she has seen this thread and says there is no amount of cold and rain that could put her off

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Make sure she also has a look at the abysmal forecast now posted by that proclaimer of all that is doom and gloom, SimonJK, if she still wants to go out after reading that, marry her before you go. My good lady likes it a bit rough (don't even think it) but even she doesn't much fancy it this weekend.
 
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Wayne.

By twist of fate, she has seen this thread ...

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It's a good job I didn't answer earlier when I was going to enquire about the leg-over situation vis-a-vis the need-to-impress. /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif
 
I'm sorry gentlemen, but I feel it's most devious of those of you who have suggested that judders cancels the sailing trip and takes her out for a meal or to a hotel instead! That will make her think that's what happens as a matter of course, and should you therefore impress her enough with that lie to enter into wedlock under the misapprehension that you will always be giving up your sailing days whenever the weather is not quite right for her, then you will have a miserable time married!
Give her the truth...... tell her that the forecast is really quite miserable this weekend and she may not enjoy it, but you are giving her the choice of either coming along anway, or alternatively you'll see her next week when you get back from your sail.
That way she will understand what the norm is.
NOW, whichever of those 2 options she accepts, you are onto a winner!
 
Definetly dont go... but do suggest she strips all the paper from your hall and glosses the window sills in the lounge whilst you go to the pub and watch england thrash someone or other at something... hang on is that my alarm clock?
 
OK, if she really wants to go...

Make sure she's warm and dry and keep it short.
One or two reefs more than you'd usually put in in those conditions.
Explain about heeling, and explain again when it does heel.
Let her helm (with you standing comfortingly close behind) to help her confidence.
Ask her to help with everything else, but make it clear that she can say no - you can sail it with her just sitting there, but you'd also appreciate her help.
Don't be tempted to show off.
Explain, and then ask her opinion about some things eg going back, shaking out that extra reef etc.

Enjoy - if you enjoy it and she's the right sort of person for you, she'll enjoy it too.

Good luck
 
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Mind you if you take her out in that and she loves it then you should marry her at once. She really would be one in a million

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Just take some bottles of champers. Weather conditions then irrelevant. Don't take any baked beans.
Could show off culinery skills with a Fray Bentos, but unless totally confident in the subtleties don't push it.
Craft presumably waterproof top & bottom, otherwise take spare undies & socks. (1 pair should be ok for a week this time of year).
Take plenty of matches for evening entertainment. (to make model yacht to stick in empties).

Tell us how you get on. /forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif
 
I am Helinä's SWMBO - do NOT take a novice either tacking or in a temperature below 20 degrees celcius - it is not advantageous for either the relationship nor for the love of sailing. I recommend - bunch of yellow roses, bed, chocolate and lots of champagne. Next year you can take her sailing at this time of the winter! because then (after autumn sailing) she thinks Easter sailing is a pleasure.
 
Book a show or a dinner in London.The forecast is not good and for a first timer it will not be the best introduction.However if you want to get a new cuddle take her sailing but let her drive down in her car you can make your way back by train.
 
Explaining heeling and understanding it is one thing getting her to be rational about it is another. If she takes to it you have just found yourself a new crew member.
 
How about a nice easy run from Sparkes to Emsworth with a hired hand to help run the (chartered) boat?

You'll even get a heated cabin (c/w double sleeping bag), and my SWIMBO has left a set of girlie-shaped oiles on board./forums/images/graemlins/ooo.gif

Do I have to wear a peaked cap and change into my smoking jacket to serve you dinner? /forums/images/graemlins/laugh.gif
 
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How about a nice easy run from Sparkes to Emsworth with a hired hand to help run the (chartered) boat?

Here in Sunny Emsworth, 11 tons of boat, full keel down, lines in touts direction, is in full jive bunny mode-SWMBO just set off for loos in LJ, Helmet, harness and lead diving boots; last two bods up pontoon didn't make it /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif
You might get here, but "bagsyme first" I get to photo the berthing action

Got a 3 dongle as recommended by one of the YBW threads. Great idea per SWMBO- keeps me out of the Ld Raglan /forums/images/graemlins/smirk.gif
 
Would anyone here trust their new squeeze to gybe a spinny off Nab tower?

Famous last words "We'll just steer 180 until we can smell the garlic - with the wind like this we'll be in France in no time"...

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Would anyone here trust their new squeeze to gybe a spinny off Nab tower?

If new squeeze one of Olympic Squad, prob ok. Not likely to be squeeze of SFHB (short, fat, hairy,beardie) like me. /forums/images/graemlins/frown.gif
Anyway SWMBO would be after me with the boarding pike! /forums/images/graemlins/mad.gif /forums/images/graemlins/mad.gif

After the incident off the St Just Nav bouy in Falmouth Week some 25 years ago, SWMBO & I don't do spinnakers any more.
Nearly crushed by Tosher fleet ignoring IRYU rules, Gybe, Broach, boat full of water, Domestic x Richter scale 10. Sold Spinny, stayed wed. /forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif

Very gingerly flew cruising chute again 5 years ago off Dartmouth; two Relate counsellors in support rib on standby.
Survived. Done it some more again since, but not the pole again! /forums/images/graemlins/blush.gif

Asymmetric/Gennaker. furling, under review, tho, as diesel price rises /forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif
 
Well I got away with it... indeed did more than get away with it. Stormbound we were able to go all domestic and, of course, shop, which was always going to be popular. We eventually got out yesterday and had a cracking fast beat up Southampton Water which she absolutely loved. Her face lit up and the faster we went, the more the boat heeled, the more she beamed. She played a full part in the running of the boat and clearly has a better stomach for going below than I do... which is good because she clearly knows more about how the galley is arranged than I do!
 
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