when swmbo gets in the way of logic

[Searush]

What surprises me that none of the arrogant JFDI types ever seem to consider that their better half might just decide to spend a similar sum on a horse, holiday, clothes or a make-over etc as a way of "getting even" leaving the family with a potentially devastating debt.

But then I have only been married since 1969, so what would I know about it? Most of you might have worked thro 3 or 4 partners in that time.

 

[Deleted User YDKXO]

Mebbe we should head off to the lounge with this?

Cheers
Jimmy

Yup, not right to hijack the OP's thread. First one to test ride the Explorer posts in the Lounge?

 

[bendyone]

Just do it life's too short.
Also being landlocked in central England it's good to have something to play with locally. We have the boat in Calais and a small cabin boat for the Thames, sometimes I wonder which I have more fun with.

 

[oGaryo]

What surprises me that none of the arrogant JFDI types ever seem to consider that their better half might just decide to spend a similar sum on a horse, holiday, clothes or a make-over etc as a way of "getting even" leaving the family with a potentially devastating debt.

But then I have only been married since 1969, so what would I know about it? Most of you might have worked thro 3 or 4 partners in that time.

22 years for myself in May so not doing too bad... TBH though the jfdi contingent do have a case.. I fought tooth and nail to get a boat, the first Deb vowed never to step foot in it and she didn't, the second she had a half hearted go and the third, I can't keep her and her mates off the thing... if it weren't for me saying, f@@k it Deb, I'm doing this and that's that, I'd still be a saddo carp fisherman wasting my life away on the river back... just want to waste it away on the same river, but in a wee boat instead

p.s. often find the missus looking on Ebay etc at 30 foot boats

 

[sailorman]

this morning I presented a sound proposition that we 'needed' a small rib to extend the boaty fun to messing about in bays and the like darn on the south coast and also for messin about on the rivers up here in the home counties when we couldn't get down to the boat..

it was met with a resounding, no, we already have a boat with a tender (inflatable floor dingy, not a proper short loa rib)... where's the logic in that

it may be a case of act then ask for forgiveness this one

Too L8 mate you have already asked No is NO
Buy it then ask

 

[TSB240]

Its a no brainer...

I went out and bought one without her knowledge...

The kids graduated from being towed on a tractor tyre or old wakeboard onto kneeling on a belly board, two skis to one ski, to deep water mono start.

25hp could pull two up sking or a teenage deepwater mono no problem with the right prop.

Swmbo EVENTUALLY FORGAVE ME when we sold it for what we paid 10 years earlier!

 

[jimmy_the_builder]

Yup, not right to hijack the OP's thread. First one to test ride the Explorer posts in the Lounge?

Deal.

Cheers
Jimmy

 

[oGaryo]

got it sussed I reckon... been asking for prices of a few ribs with sellers coming back with asking price around £6K.... Deb has just seen one such reply and growled in this direction... Will bide my time, find a boat circa half that price, buy it unannounced and then bask in praise from my dear lady wife for buying a bargain... cannot fail

 

[Searush]

got it sussed I reckon... been asking for prices of a few ribs with sellers coming back with asking price around £6K.... Deb has just seen one such reply and growled in this direction... Will bide my time, find a boat circa half that price, buy it unannounced and then bask in praise from my dear lady wife for buying a bargain... cannot fail

That's about 6 months food for the family, or a couple of reasonable holidays, or a replacement car . . . That's how she will be thinking. You are riding for a fall, and you now it. But you need to get over the denial stage before you can deal with the problem.

 

[enterprise]

Better things to come?

At this stage I would be keeping swmbo on side, after all you now have a marina berth, the next boat will be a smart 30ft+ twin cabin twin engined boat that's she's already looking for.
My guess this will be before end of the season!

Believe me once you start, marina life is so much more than just convenient access to your boat and having extra accommodation makes even more sense once you start to use it more, seriously I would get the first season over and re-evaluate your requirements come September when show season starts.

You have already trodden the same path as many and the next step is 30ft+ as above, enjoy the season with your current boat, guaranteed you will be looking for your next by the end of it.

 

[Jim@sea]

To get to my boat on Windermere which was on a swinging mooring I needed a dingy to get to it. So after a couple of years with the usual 9ft dingy with 4 hp outboard and having to pay the rip off Car Park charges at Ferry Nab to park the car and pay extra for my dingy trailer I realised that I could buy a speedboat to use as a tender as the Car Park charge would not increase, it would carry more people and get me to my boat quicker.
So I bought a 15ft 1985 Bayliner Speedboat, put a 2000 Suzuki 25 hp on it and my method of getting to my boat had improved no end.
BUT my wife preferred going about in the Bayliner than being on our actual boat (which would only do 8knots anyway)
And I must admit so did I. So much so that we have sold our main boat. We have moved off Windemere as its no fun anymore. (I was on Windemere in 1975 with a twin engined boat which would do 30 knots) and I am going to buy another boat which will do 25 knots.
Boating is about enjoying yourself.
Get it bought. Do a deal with her. Promise her anything. Life is too short.

 

[tinkicker0]

this morning I presented a sound proposition that we 'needed' a small rib to extend the boaty fun to messing about in bays and the like darn on the south coast and also for messin about on the rivers up here in the home counties when we couldn't get down to the boat..

it was met with a resounding, no, we already have a boat with a tender (inflatable floor dingy, not a proper short loa rib)... where's the logic in that

it may be a case of act then ask for forgiveness this one

Good God Gary. Is your list of promised "tasks and favours" to balance out this boaty spending not enough yet

I fear that much more of this and you will be into SWMBO's redress the balance list so deep that you will nary see the light of day again.

Take care me hearty, once they have you on the list, they are reluctant to let you off it again.