sailors wives - a few questions for them from Dylan

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I was going to write something about what its like being married to a sailor

so I wondered if any of you blokes could turn around and ask your significant other to name three good things about being married to a small boat sailor

and three bad things


Jill says that one of the good things is that she knows that if I have been to the boat I come back smelling so bad she knows that I could never have been with another woman

so we are generally a fairly loyal lot


a bad thing is that we bring some really stinky damp mouldy clothes back with us

attempt to hide from her how much the boat is costing

so ask her to have a think

very keen you hear your replies

feel free to attach pictures

Dylan
 
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For some reason I was expecting a variant on "Reader's Wives":-)

Good things per SWMBO
If she feels like doing nothing and leaving me to run the ship while she relaxes, she can.
If she wants to take charge, she can.
Jealous friends.

Bad things per SWMBO.
Antifouling time, he stinks like you would not believe
Engine spannering time, he swears a LOT and gets covered in filth
When the holding tank gets full.
 
Difficult to answer this one because I am the female in the sailing partnership, but I don't fit into your implied stereotype otherwise. I hope you are not assuming that only men sail and all their little wifeys are left at home!

Best things:
the peace when you get out of the harbour (or whatever) and turn off the engine
Getting the hook down with only a few seals and birds for company, especially at the end of a long passage
the noise of the waves on the hull as you sail
and lots of others

worst
Yes, antifouling time
the cost of everything boaty
banging my head on various bits of the boat
and a few others
 
not a bit

AliM said:
Difficult to answer this one because I am the female in the sailing partnership, but I don't fit into your implied stereotype otherwise. I hope you are not assuming that only men sail and all their little wifeys are left at home!
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No assumptions - and I was a producer on womans hour so my feminist credentials are impeccable

but..... out of my 400 subscribers to my films only 1 - just one - is a woman

and the item is for small boat sailors in the states.

Jill comes sailing with me when the weather is brilliant - she is in some of the films - but even she does not watch the films and would never read a sailing magazine.

Its like handbags

granted - its not just women who carry handbags - some men carry them - but statistically most of the people who carry handbags are women.

Most sailors of small boats are men - usually sailing alone

 
SW(WouldLikeTo)BO says:

Good things:

Nice that he has something he enjoys doing that costs more than my clothes shopping.

Always something to buy for birthdays and Christmas

On a sunny week-end nothing nicer than joining him for a sail to somewhere away from crowds and open a bottle.

Bad Things:

I don't really want winch handles for birthday presents

I hate the house filling up with boat gear at the end of the season

Feeling out of control
 
dylanwinter said:
No assumptions - and I was a producer on womans hour so my feminist credentials are impeccable

but..... out of my 400 subscribers to my films only 1 - just one - is a woman

and the item is for small boat sailors in the states.

Jill comes sailing with me when the weather is brilliant - she is in some of the films - but even she does not watch the films and would never read a sailing magazine.

Its like handbags

granted - its not just women who carry handbags - some men carry them - but statistically most of the people who carry handbags are women.

Most sailors of small boats are men - usually sailing alone

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Larvelly! But has anyone ever told you to "shut the feck up!"
:)
Stu
 
Dylan

The film took me back. We had a Winkle Brig ( cabin version) and it gave us a lot of fun and introduced our young ones to sailing ( Somehow they got three and a half berths below) . Ours had the full gaff rig, complete with topsail, but you had to think about reefing in anything above an F3. When we sold it I had to draw a plan for the new owner to show where all the strings went.

Have you thought about a sculling notch or a rowlock on the back so that you could scull the boat into shore or wherever you want to go when not under sail? I learned to scull from a Guernsey fisherman but you rarely see it done these days, everyone has an outboard.
 
dylanwinter said:
but..... out of my 400 subscribers to my films only 1 - just one - is a woman

and the item is for small boat sailors in the states.
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sorry dylan but i think you are being a bit sexist. i'm a small sailboat owner / sailor and also female.

if only 1 of your subscribers is a woman maybe that's because of how you are pitching your films??? it's like the question of this thread - it just assumes a male audience. it just assumes certain roles.

you might be right that there is a majority of men but it's not ALL men. plus why would sailors wives who are not interested in sailing themselves (and therefore sailors) be on an internet forum all about sailing????

you might as well ask the working husbands of stay at home mums a question on mumsnet.....

i don't think you're going to get a resounding response. oh i see you don't expect them to be on the forum themselves...just knitting in the background.
 
dylanwinter said:
well.......

if you stop asking questions people soon stop talking

just my experience as hack for 30 years

but I am almost certainly wrong - usually am

however, feel free to turn the sound down or not watch the films at all

Dylan
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D
the point I was making in a jocular manner was that you were, IMHO, pushing the old man too much
S
 
strong language there - I am a bit upset

ninky said:
sorry dylan but i think you are being a bit sexist. i'm a small sailboat owner / sailor and also female.

if only 1 of your subscribers is a woman maybe that's because of how you are pitching your films??? it's like the question of this thread - it just assumes a male audience. it just assumes certain roles.

you might be right that there is a majority of men but it's not ALL men. plus why would sailors wives who are not interested in sailing themselves (and therefore sailors) be on an internet forum all about sailing????

you might as well ask the working husbands of stay at home mums a question on mumsnet.....

i don't think you're going to get a resounding response. oh i see you don't expect them to be on the forum themselves...just knitting in the background.
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I never mentioned knitting or mumsnet - steady on.

you are putting words in my mouth that I never said and implying that I have certain opinions that I do not have. Really I promise you.

I am deeply, deeply sorry if I offended you

but.....

I am making films about sailing - from the perspective of a msn sailing a small boat

the majority of the people who sail small boats and read yachting magazines are men - I think - although I may be wrong on that

I also know that of the 400 people who have payed to watch the films only half a dozen are mobo owners

I could start putting up more films about how much I love mobos in an effort to persuade mobo owners to start watching the films

send me a PM and I will send you a free code to watch the films and then I would love to hear from you how I should change them to widen the demongaphic.

Dylan
 
ninky said:
sorry dylan but i think you are being a bit sexist. i'm a small sailboat owner / sailor and also female.

if only 1 of your subscribers is a woman maybe that's because of how you are pitching your films??? it's like the question of this thread - it just assumes a male audience. it just assumes certain roles.

you might be right that there is a majority of men but it's not ALL men. plus why would sailors wives who are not interested in sailing themselves (and therefore sailors) be on an internet forum all about sailing????

you might as well ask the working husbands of stay at home mums a question on mumsnet.....

i don't think you're going to get a resounding response. oh i see you don't expect them to be on the forum themselves...just knitting in the background.
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OH FFS!
 
Linda said "Oh, I don't know!"

But when pressed, :eek:

You get some exciting holidays - maybe too exciting sometimes.
Sitting in the cockpit with a glass of an evening in a quiet anchorage
Seeing the sea birds & wildlife

It can get very cold & wet
He comes back with a load of filthy clothes
He washes ropes in the washing machine & sails in the bath.


I can add that I had to get my own sewing machine in case I knackered the settings on hers & now she borrows mine!
 
very good

Searush said:
Linda said "Oh, I don't know!"

But when pressed, :eek:

You get some exciting holidays - maybe too exciting sometimes.
Sitting in the cockpit with a glass of an evening in a quiet anchorage
Seeing the sea birds & wildlife

It can get very cold & wet
He comes back with a load of filthy clothes
He washes ropes in the washing machine & sails in the bath.


I can add that I had to get my own sewing machine in case I knackered the settings on hers & now she borrows mine!
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Jill says the best bit is in the cockpit in the evening - in other words once we have stopped sailing. When alone I stop for some food ast four and then try to be sailing as the sun goes down

- why watch one sunset when you can watch a thousand in one evening

D
 
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