Reluctant spouse.

[Chris_Stannard]

Most common cause of wife not taking to sailing is that she does not trust her husband.
common senario is that a bloke goes out in a boat a few times and thinks it is really great, rushes off an buys a boat, without too much idea of navigation, how the boat works, boat handling etc. Handling the boat he shouts a lot to make up for his own inadequacies and does not know when to say, I made a messs of that, we'll go round and do it again.

My suggestion is do a good course with a good sailing school, and then take and get the qualification, You can then show you are qualified to a level.

I was lucky that I started sailing as a kid and did some time at sea. When I met my wife she could see I knew a bit about it, and trusts me. However I still get it wrong sometimes and still am learning all of the time.

Good luck


Chris Stannard

 

[Twister_Ken]

Spouses are often v reluctant when there are small children at home. "What are the poor little darlings going to do if both their parents get drownded?" (Notice, she doesn't mind if only the father drowns)

Once getting towards the empty nest stage, that fear is rather lessened, and your soul mate is more likely to become your crew mate.

 

[ruthhobson]

Agree about doing a course together - you both gain experience and confidence, in your skills and each other. Also with a good instructor you learn the right way to do things, rather than pick up your partners bad habits!

Sometimes it is easier to take instructions from a stranger - if my other half tried to teach me how to coil a rope or another "simple" task I probably would have told him to stop patronising me, but with the instructor you believe there is a good reason for doing it that way rather than HWMBO being picky for no good reason.

Also please do you share of the boring jobs - for instance I get really fed up of being fender girl, running up and down like a nutter, picking up bruises as I go. While someone else stands at the helm offering comment and instruction.

Ruth

PS Why is it that on boats men don't get covered in bruises like women? Are boats designed that way? Is it a plan to keep women away?

 

[sailbadthesinner]

I think women do bruise more easily than men.

but HWMBO?????????????? are you sure. since when has that been. i must tell the others

Come on brain.get this over and i can go back to killing you with beer

 

[ccscott49]

Definitely not a plan to keep women away from my boat! Girls do bruise easier, it's a physical fact, don't know why, but they do, a girlfriend nursing sister told me about it, when I bruised her, don't look at me like that! it was an accident.