Rekindling an old romance-would you ever, really?

[SoulFireMage]

A random wine soaked thread as I'm busy working on Dreamfinder

She was ours once years ago, sold her to my best mate and for various, reasonable reasons I'm a bit involved again. Downside, I find myself rediscovering the reasons I bought her originally. Now my mate has no plans to sell her at all, we've no plans to buy her, so rekindling this seems a tad daft.

Anyone here found themselves in a similar situation?

As I said, an odd thread, the lack of typos is due to spell check on iPad The lack of sense is due to rose left on board, mostly drunk

 

[BlueSkyNick]

I hope you feel alright in the morning.

 

[Seajet]

SoulFireMage,

I once sold my boat after a long engagement ended and I mistakenly thought it time to move on; I missed her hugely ( the boat that is ! ) and used to go to see her left unused in a yard, thinking ' what have I done ?! '

After 4 years my calls via the yard were answered, and I got her back - the romance and enjoyment hasn't dimmed, and even when I win the lottery there's no way we'll be parted again, though she might be flagship of a fleet of Hallberg Rasseys, Rhodes designs, Osprey dinghies and Rustlers !

 

[SoulFireMage]

SoulFireMage,

I once sold my boat after a long engagement ended and I mistakenly thought it time to move on; I missed her hugely ( the boat that is ! ) and used to go to see her left unused in a yard, thinking ' what have I done ?! '

After 4 years my calls via the yard were answered, and I got her back - the romance and enjoyment hasn't dimmed, and even when I win the lottery there's no way we'll be parted again, though she might be flagship of a fleet of Hallberg Rasseys, Rhodes designs, Osprey dinghies and Rustlers !

Hi Seajet,

Thank you for letting me know it ain't just me then

It was seven years since we owned Dreamfinder, she's no cheaper to run and no less demanding yet now the latter only makes her more appealing for some reason. It's daft really as we have one in Braunston, First Edition, who is also rather special to look after.

I've no reason to think it, but I feel in years to come I'll have her back despite several fairly important obstacles: cost, cost to run, desire of my mate to sell her even if the first two were overcome and all that. It'll be a fate thing I guess: if it's meant to be coincidences will line up. Funny thing is, with her ill have to overcome some nerves in driving her close quarters really-annoyingly I'd no trouble with our Broom 35 but several unfortunate incidents not of my making made me so wary I didn't get over it so wouldn't do much of the tricky driving-a bit idiotic really.

Interesting way you describe your relationship with yours-it's that feeling that motivated me to work on her this week and maybe this weekend coming too. Do you have any photos?

Edit: Never mind, just read your link. Clever little design and rather pretty.

 

[SoulFireMage]

I hope you feel alright in the morning.

Should be ok, I've had practice

Maybe too much practice!

 

[snowleopard]

As a teenager I was very taken by an 18 footer a friend's family owned. An elegant gentleman's sailing boat, carvel built - with splines, not caulked - a tall wooden mast with cotton sails and a lead-tipped centreboard. I tracked her down 10 years later and bought her. Sadly she was only with me for a couple of seasons as the lure of an offshore(ish) boat caught me and I traded up to a 1908 gaffer.

So it anyone sees a Chichester Harbour one design, sail number CH4, by the name of 'Flight', let me know. I couldn't own her again but I'd love to know what happened to her.

 

[mikeinkwazi]

In 2008, after 12 years and a hell of a lot of seamiles, I sold Inkwazi. The new owner found her difficult to sail and sold her after a season! She maybe somewhere on the East coast of Scotland (the next owner called my answerphone but left no number) If you know where she is let me know. We still talk about all the good times we had!

 

[alant]

A random wine soaked thread as I'm busy working on Dreamfinder

She was ours once years ago, sold her to my best mate and for various, reasonable reasons I'm a bit involved again. Downside, I find myself rediscovering the reasons I bought her originally. Now my mate has no plans to sell her at all, we've no plans to buy her, so rekindling this seems a tad daft.

Anyone here found themselves in a similar situation?

As I said, an odd thread, the lack of typos is due to spell check on iPad The lack of sense is due to rose left on board, mostly drunk

As someone once said, you can't relight a firework.

 

[AntarcticPilot]

When I was looking for a boat, if I'd seen a Halcyon 27 in good order I would have been tempted - it was the "big boat" of my youth, my father's last real sailing boat. However, my brother convinced me that it wouldn't have been the right boat for me - they are tender, and of course, the accommodation is cramped compared with a more modern yacht. Having gained experience (I was out of sailing for many years, barring occcasional charters), I know he was right - the Halcyon is a great boat, but I am no longer suited to her!

Point is that we see the past through rose-coloured glasses, and remember things as being better than they actually were. I sometimes make a point that the "good old days" weren't - would you rather live when measles was prevalent and killed a respectable proportion of children? That's my parent's generation. Would you rather live when measles was prevalent and, although curable, disabled a lot of children? That's my generation. Or would you rather live in a world where measles is rare, so a few hundred cases in Wales is an epidemic? That's now! And there are many similar themes that can be followed. It's the same with boats; we remember the good times on a boat, but we don't remember the minor inconveniences we took for granted - but would find inconvenient now!

Never look back, except to enjoy a memory.

 

[Sandy]

Nope, times move on - remember the good times and the fun you had on the boat, enjoy the new. You only live once and that life needs to be filled with lots of different experiences.

 

[nimbusgb]

When I was looking for a boat, if I'd seen a Halcyon 27 in good order I would have been tempted - it was the "big boat" of my youth, my father's last real sailing boat. However, my brother convinced me that it wouldn't have been the right boat for me - they are tender, and of course, the accommodation is cramped compared with a more modern yacht. Having gained experience (I was out of sailing for many years, barring occcasional charters), I know he was right - the Halcyon is a great boat, but I am no longer suited to her!

Point is that we see the past through rose-coloured glasses, and remember things as being better than they actually were. I sometimes make a point that the "good old days" weren't - would you rather live when measles was prevalent and killed a respectable proportion of children? That's my parent's generation. Would you rather live when measles was prevalent and, although curable, disabled a lot of children? That's my generation. Or would you rather live in a world where measles is rare, so a few hundred cases in Wales is an epidemic? That's now! And there are many similar themes that can be followed. It's the same with boats; we remember the good times on a boat, but we don't remember the minor inconveniences we took for granted - but would find inconvenient now!

Never look back, except to enjoy a memory.

Nicely put. We left South Africa nearly 16 years ago and have not been back since, at all. All the memories worth keeping are there to revisit over a bottle of wine and the bad ones can be consigned to the past. The rest of the world is waiting to be explored.

Once repurchased a car I'd owned ........ Never again!

 

[SoulFireMage]

Normally I'd agree with never look back as a concept, certainly my partner does. However, in this case, the story between Dreamfinder and I didn't get concluded. In practical ways, I needed to sort out little things like confidence and indeed, skills. The mistake we made was mooring her close to us instead of somewhere nice,yet distant. So instead of staying away on her we just went home after our parties on board. At the time I wasn't as practical either, in fact rather ignorant of most useful DIY that would make a difference on her. Now, things are different.

A clever metaphor, the firework, but I don't believe it's homomorphic to this, I think instead we had her too early-for me anyway and that long term, I feel that she is one I'd definitely find a way to go back to; mainly because of how I feel with her even when doing the most awful of jobs - anti fouling in November for example.

It's not practical at this time for me to buy her back, and tbh my mate is also pretty fond of her, so her being up for sale ain't imminent.

Just curious to see who else had experienced similar really.

Many Shamrock quay members here btw?

 

[LittleSister]

Nope, times move on - remember the good times and the fun you had, enjoy the new. You only live once and that life needs to be filled with lots of different experiences.

Are we still talking boats here?

 

[Abestea]

The girl friend and I were discussing boats we could get if we won the lottery at the weekend. There was mention of a Hanse to which she said she would to love to be sailing one of those right now. I initially said yes and then tried to imagine what it would be like. All i could think was I would rather keep the Sigma33. Just feels more right. Yes the boat is my passion.

I did get asked by the girl friend if I preferred the boat to her. Naturally, i told her yes. "I really like spending time with you dear, but I love my boat so much more!"

That may not have went down well....

 

[SoulFireMage]

The girl friend and I were discussing boats we could get if we won the lottery at the weekend. There was mention of a Hanse to which she said she would to love to be sailing one of those right now. I initially said yes and then tried to imagine what it would be like. All i could think was I would rather keep the Sigma33. Just feels more right. Yes the boat is my passion.

I did get asked by the girl friend if I preferred the boat to her. Naturally, i told her yes. "I really like spending time with you dear, but I love my boat so much more!"

That may not have went down well....

Well when your out at sea, who holds you all night, takes care of you in a storm, doesn't complain if you've got wind and doesn't give you grief if you don't wash up or clear up?



I've had a mate say that to his missus too, strange thing about that relationship, it fizzled out rather like the firework mentioned earlier.

 

[dombuckley]

So it anyone sees a Chichester Harbour one design, sail number CH4, by the name of 'Flight', let me know. I couldn't own her again but I'd love to know what happened to her.

She was certainly at Bosham Sailing Club about 18 months ago....

 

[Sandy]

Are we still talking boats here?

I was... :encouragement:

 

[Birdseye]

A random wine soaked thread as I'm busy working on Dreamfinder

She was ours once years ago, sold her to my best mate and for various, reasonable reasons I'm a bit involved again. Downside, I find myself rediscovering the reasons I bought her originally. Now my mate has no plans to sell her at all, we've no plans to buy her, so rekindling this seems a tad daft.

Anyone here found themselves in a similar situation?

As I said, an odd thread, the lack of typos is due to spell check on iPad The lack of sense is due to rose left on board, mostly drunk

Old boats are like old girl friends. Never ever look back.

 

[Seajet]

' Never go back ' probably does apply to girlfriends, but in the case of the boat I sold then regained, I had tried owning and sailing others in the meantime to know how well she suits me; now I know anything else would just be silly !

 

[Rick_A]

Not boaty but i have a neighbor who has married 3 times and divorced twice the same woman.