My dilema

[chris_hall]

What do i do ?
I live in the I.O.M. own a Pegasus 800 (cracking little boat) and have a fantastic sailing area in the summer months.
The problem is - my mother in-law has just bought an Oceanis 440 in Barcelona taken it to Malta and is leaving it there for good. (Who can blame her @ £2000 a year). The problem is the other half absolutely detests boats, of any size. Now, do i go on family hols to a nice beach resort or do i go to Malta with a sailing friend (male) and enjoy some fantastic Med sailing whenever I wish. By the way MiL. can,t sail herself but loves sailing with us as we found out on the 1st Jan when we went out to Malta for a week and enjoyed some great sailing and weather.
This could wreck my marriage, I need help.

 

[Emjaytoo]

Divorce SWiMBO, marry MIL!

 

[chris_hall]

Ah, if it were so easy.
My kids could then call me grandad

 

[ostria]

Divorce SWMBO, marry a female boat owner younger than MiL /forums/images/graemlins/laugh.gif

 

[Lakesailor]

Rock/Hard place come to mind. Surely Malta has beaches you could leave Mrs Grumpy on?

 

[Clive_Rigden]

Just give up sailing - it's the only way. I only got 36 hours sailing last seaon for about £10k outlay! SWIMBO is now less than entusiastic and I'm seen as bing selfish if I start thinking about anything other than the very occaisional day sail. It's also a lot more comfortable reading Y.M. anmd dreaming!

 

[sailbadthesinner]

so you have married a woman who hates boats
have mother in law who can't sail but has bought an oceanis 440
and i thought my family was mad /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif

we need clarification

does wife hate sailing? or hate trying to make tidal sill at Peel in a pegasus 800 on a wet weekend on the irish sea? Is holyhead not her idea of a cruising location?
Has MIL anyone welse to take her sailing? or is this boat a ruse to get you and she on your own?????

It could be smwbo hates your boat in IOM and not boats in general.
Mrs s did not ''love'' boats despite repeated wet weekends in north wales then hey presto in the med she loves boats and wants to retire to boat.

I have not sailed round malta but imagine its pretty super, enough even to make a wife like it. Alternatively go to malta on holiday and take the boat and MIL out for a few day trips and spend rest of time with swmbo with the pensioners and other tax exiles. ( only people i know who go to malta appear to be of an age, so prob lots on this board)

Best not to wreck marriage unless you can easily afford it. Possibly, it being IOM, you could get some sort of law passed that if you say ''I divorce thee'' three times while motorcycling backwards , wife has to pack bags with nary a groat to her name. Other than that compromise and concerted attempts to win swmbo over is best tactic.

 

[sailbadthesinner]

you could be like the proverbial priest
who everyone calls father
except his own children who have to call him uncle

 

[Lakesailor]

Minimal sailing. That's the answer.
Boat for £3k or less.
20ft or less.
Cheap moorings or trailing.
Day sailing.

Our annual outlay. Less than £600 plus about £200 maintenance (perhaps).

We usually sail about once a week in the summer and perhaps once a month in the winter. (double that if you include my single-handed jollies) Our trips last probably half a day as that's the way our time comes free.

What else can you do for £15 a week? /forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif

 

[catmandoo]

Your wife does not like sailing in UK but perhaps she likes awarm climate and an exotic location .

Answer take mother in laws boat to Seychelles with male friend then invite mother in law with Wife to sail around blue seas , coral strands and drink from cooconuts .

 

[reginaldon]

I've gone the same way as Lakesailor. Boat v.good order, well under a grand on Ebay. Swmbo maintains that if she ever comes down to the boat, it will be armed with a drill and after all, I did name the boat after her, and come out of the Navy for her at the end of my Nat. Service! Ah well c'est la vie!

 

[chris_hall]

The only boat SWMBO will board is Roman A,s new super yacht and even that would not be allowed to go to sea !!! And unfortunately she is not Scottish and I have,nt seen her running along Douglas beach in a kilt with a drawn Claymore otherwise i could have shot her

 

[sailbadthesinner]

oh dear
what a pickle

well its little sailing and sulky swmbo or no sailing and sulky vous.
A classic case odf marry in haste repent ..etc.....

why on earth did you marry the girl?

would MIL like any other volunteer sailing *ahem* companions ? /forums/images/graemlins/shocked.gif

 

[narooma]

further details on mil could be helpful for those of us on a quest for a "sponsor"

 

[PTG1]

Come at this from a different angle. Find wife a hobby which is time consuming, expensive and that you hate. Let her go off and do that at the same time as you nip off on a cheap flight to Malta with mate. All then satisfied, esp. if MiL fancies mate; probably not a good idea for you to get involved with her! Before you know it, wifey will be asking when your next trip is, although be careful if she starts having makeovers and tarting herself up, she may have met Mr Right mark II.

 

[tangomoon]

Go for the boat Mil and other women will follow

 

[Sheff]

Save your marriage!!

Just PM me your M-I-L's telephone number, I'll take her sailing /forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif

 

[kengill]

I suggest you maintain your relations with your wife and introduce me to the MiL. Could do with some warm winter sailing occaisionally.

 

[Lakesailor]

This MiL is not the same as a MILF, is it?

 

[geoffatstanpit]

Beware!! I once took my MIL sailing and (as usual) couldn't get a word in edgewise - let alone two, I really did need to get "ready about" in with some urgency at one point.