Meeting people v size of boat

[tcm]

with a smaller boat, i reckon you meet/make more new friends. With a bigger boat, i reckon you make fewer.

My theory is that this is due to one or more reasons:

1 there's fewer big boats per metre of pontoon anyway
2 in the med, lots of peeps are foreign and so its harder get past the "hola" or "bonjour" stage and actually have a friend.
3 They often have crew, who protect owners from problems etc as the crew do all the boaty things, and the crew don't cock things up as much either or need any help to get in or out.
4 altho i mite have loads of spanners and cups of sugar to lend out - everyone else has got all the spanners and sugar they need, thanks.
5 People in bigger boats are physically further away from you as you walk past so there's never a time like on a smaller pontoon where you or they sort of have to smile and say hi.
6. Since it's harder to make new friends, people on other boats bring a big group along hence vicious circkle making it harder again to make new friends with all big groups milling around having chats which nobody from another boat feels they can interrupt.
7. With a bigger boat, new people don't make friend cos they THINK you are a proportionally more stuckup git than with smaller boat and that you wouldn't dream of eating old toast or instant coffee, even tho i quite like old toast, especially if it has gone a bit bendy (but not too soggily bendy of course, and definitely not if it's been burned, unless the burnt side has been PROPERLY scraped off rather than just a bit of token scraping)
8. With a bigger boat, everyone actually IS a stuckup git, including me.

 

[mainshiptom]

Matt

I do not agree ! you can always jump in the dingy? or rib and splash every one !

We tend to invite people in smaller boat to ours and make friends that way, we also been invited to very big boats as well !

there is always a guy with a bigger boat then yourself!

Making friends is about wanting to make friends and size does not come into it !

 

[paulineb]

sod the spanners and cups of sugar, would they let us borrow the crew ?

 

[tcm]

ah but

not easy to get rib out in a med marina- stern-to innit, see? I spose i mean the size of boat where you might have crew - or at least where others do have crew.

Also er loads of people have boats loads bigger than ours, and i spose esp on this pontoon ours is praps one of the smaller boats in these size of berths cos sports cruiser not fbridge.

 

[Magnum]

Sure the main reason is that because bigger boats tend to be in the med you cannot rabbit on about how crap the weather is all the time?

 

[tcm]

Re: weather

good point! that's number nine i spose!

 

[tcm]

um well yes they would - but "i'll send someone over" means you still don't make friends cept with the crew i spose. Dare I ask why you mite want to borrow someone else's crew?...

 

[paulineb]

Mr B doesn't put enough ice in my G&T

 

[Jobs_a_ good_ un]

Hi Matt
I reckon the south cost is not very friendly full stop but then its a bit like picadilly circus so many boats.
Where as when your on the move and theres less boats about theres a bit more camraderie especially if your travelling in the same direction and can chat about destinations etc
Twill be interesting in the med this summer (off in 3 weeks saturday)people where very friendly last year and one of the things that attracted me about boating is the social element
People in Bristol are so different its much more multi cultural
than the south coast and theres hardly any toffs
The thing with people with big boats I mean 50-60 footers is they seem in a different class to me and my little 35 ft broom
Anyway if I see you down in the med this summer I will be along to say Hi

 

[tcm]

blimmin riff-raff

oops, i mean yes do pls call, how nice it will be to see you!

 

[capnjack]

Interesting topic........starts off logical (like a questionaire) and finishes emotionally (like the real reason for asking).

Are you really a stuck up snob tcm? Would you invite a refuse collector or a grass cutter who owns a Ring with an old outboard, on your boat for G&T's at Tiffin time?

And don't get me started on crap weather!!!!!!

Pauline...

Women should always come first and if Mr B doesn't put enough ice in your G&T, then he will never be able to see you reach your full potential.

 

[tcm]

stuck up snob

certainly not. Why, i wd even invite YOU on board so obviously not in the least bit snobbish! I put that bit in to make it amusing, self-mocking and not self-centred gittish.

Seriosuly, i have invited loads of people on board, some of them normal and nice, some a teeny bit snobby...and a few (esp brits) who are exceedingly class-concious as tho they aren't allowed to go on a boat much bigger or smaller than their own. But after the first hesitation they are fine. Or v occassionally er definitely weird. Most memorable (cept i er can't remeber) i invited some peeps on board (in st vaast) and made friends, lots of g+t, i fell asleep and next day they had to leave early on tide in sailyboat so er no idea who they are...

Not invited grass cutting or refuse colectors on board afaik - i think they wd probably have a boat on the massive-boat pontoon or even IYC and probly fly in by helicopter...

 

[MedDreamer]

Number 8 - Toilets

With a smaller boat less likely to use the on-board facilities therefore meet people in the shower block - not in George Michael sense I would add.

the dowside of this is that a lot of them are German and their bathroom habits are bloody revolting

 

[Nat]

Re: Number 8 - Toilets

I caught a german having a pee in the sink. He was very polite though, cause he moved the dishes first.

 

[Vagabond]

Agreed … on Club cruises the smaller (!) 30 -35 ft'ers get put together and the larger boats are spread around the marinas as there are fewer places for them so you end up with a division. It's usually the bigger boats that end up on their own and lonely.

 

[gjgm]

always loved the line in the Good Life, whe Tom accuses Margot of being a snob.She turns to him aghast that itcould be otherwise "but , OF COURSE, Tom."
Perfect !!

 

[amf]

Trouble is you get down to a certain size and:

1. The cockpit is too small to socialise in without getting cosy.
2. The Fridge takes a bottle of milk, half a bar of chocy and not much room left for beer/wine.
3. You don't get spotted so easily when out cruising cos you're small and fast.

Most of our boaty socialising takes place on the pontoon or on organised cruises.

Or am I just making excuses for being anti-social? /forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif

 

[paulineb]

Capn Jack, I luuuuuuuuuuuuurve you !!!!

 

[DERF]

Different Class

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The thing with people with big boats I mean 50-60 footers is they seem in a different class to me and my little 35 ft broom


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Sami, it's all in the mind. The only "different class" these people are in is in the amount of fuel they use, the cost of mooring and a lift and block/anitfoul!

Some boat owners, (even of relatively small boats) are a little self-opioniated and pompous, but you get that in every sphere of life.. just go say hi, coz the vast majority actually welcome guests on board.

 

[oldgit]

Man with largest boat goes first ?

So for example,man with rich git 24 footer parked next door to poor git with 18 footer start s ball rolling with offer of a little bolly and canapes,while slighty hard up chav with gusta 108 will nip over in the R44 to offer cheap 33cl supermarket own brand beer to more hard up drug baron in Sunseeker Perodactyl.