CodStewart
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Mine is for sale.
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Looking For A Ferrocement Boat?
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Richard10002
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What's happened? apart from the hurricane.
CodStewart
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I feel like a prisoner. I'm used to travelling overland - backpacking - and well, I don't like the fact that I can't just piss orf to India or somewhere else vibrant and full of great food.
Allan
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Oh no, I will have to rethink all of my life plans!
Allan
Allan
CodStewart
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But the real truth is that it's lonely. Secretly, I want to meet the man of my dreams, and that's not going to happen if I have to babysit my boat 24/7. Had I had a lover to do this trip with, it would have been a different kettle of fish. It really would have been a dream come true. I love sailing. I love having my own boat. But doing it alone just got too much for me.
Richard10002
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But the real truth is that it's lonely. Secretly, I want to meet the man of my dreams, and that's not going to happen if I have to babysit my boat 24/7. Had I had a lover to do this trip with, it would have been a different kettle of fish. It really would have been a dream come true. I love sailing. I love having my own boat. But doing it alone just got too much for me.
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No reason why you cant meet the man of your dreams whilst travelling on your boat .... it's clearly not Jack, or the other guy who passed through, but if enough pass through, one might be the one!
I think, if I made the effort, I could probably have met many more people than I have, and made many more friends than I have ..... and I'm sure you could too, friends of whom one becomes the man of your dreams.
You need to pull into the right places, and I'm sure something would happen, whether you are looking for the intelligent hippy style, or the smart flash type, or whatever, there is as much chance of meeting them in a harbour/marina/anchorage, as there is on a backpacking trek around India.
and dont forget..... you've got to kiss a few frogs, (as I said to my father when he admitted to joining a dating agency)
Anyway - good luck with whatever you do - fate will have a hand in whatever happens.
But the real truth is that it's lonely. Secretly, I want to meet the man of my dreams, and that's not going to happen if I have to babysit my boat 24/7. Had I had a lover to do this trip with, it would have been a different kettle of fish. It really would have been a dream come true. I love sailing. I love having my own boat. But doing it alone just got too much for me.
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No reason why you cant meet the man of your dreams whilst travelling on your boat .... it's clearly not Jack, or the other guy who passed through, but if enough pass through, one might be the one!
I think, if I made the effort, I could probably have met many more people than I have, and made many more friends than I have ..... and I'm sure you could too, friends of whom one becomes the man of your dreams.
You need to pull into the right places, and I'm sure something would happen, whether you are looking for the intelligent hippy style, or the smart flash type, or whatever, there is as much chance of meeting them in a harbour/marina/anchorage, as there is on a backpacking trek around India.
and dont forget..... you've got to kiss a few frogs, (as I said to my father when he admitted to joining a dating agency)
Anyway - good luck with whatever you do - fate will have a hand in whatever happens.
ccscott49
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Well good luck to you, but I do agree with Richard, just have to look and be patient, maybe also the boat is in the wrong place? Lovely I know, but more peeps over this side!! Why not come to the meddy, you also have more chance of leaving the boat for a while and legging it, knowing it will be safe and sound? Just a suggestion, but the very best to you in whatever you do, I for one think you deserve it.
cozzykim
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Hey, now look what you've done, made us register for our first post after months of lurking /forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif - me an' chrissie that is.
Maybe it's not being on a boat that makes you feel trapped, just being lonely.
Try the internet, we did - Richard is bang on the money, you "have to" kiss a few frogs and dogs (oh no! please don't make me) it *will* work if you are patient.
Put ads in mags for crew and guests, go and investigate the Med.
We're chartering a boat in 2 weeks with a skipper friend who has done just that and is currently liveaboard with his "mate".
Put it like this, the people you're likely to meet who are attracted by life on a cruising boat are surely gonna' be fitter, more adventurous and more interesting than most *and* I'll bet there are thousands of eligible blokes who would eat their own wooly jumper to be given the opportunity to meet someone as adventurous, tanned and interesting as you, presumably, are /forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif.
Remember, you can be just as trapped and lonely ashore, there are millions of dating site members to prove it, and (if you're not backpacking) the scenery isn't as good!
Don't give up.
Regards
Kim n Chris
Maybe it's not being on a boat that makes you feel trapped, just being lonely.
Try the internet, we did - Richard is bang on the money, you "have to" kiss a few frogs and dogs (oh no! please don't make me) it *will* work if you are patient.
Put ads in mags for crew and guests, go and investigate the Med.
We're chartering a boat in 2 weeks with a skipper friend who has done just that and is currently liveaboard with his "mate".
Put it like this, the people you're likely to meet who are attracted by life on a cruising boat are surely gonna' be fitter, more adventurous and more interesting than most *and* I'll bet there are thousands of eligible blokes who would eat their own wooly jumper to be given the opportunity to meet someone as adventurous, tanned and interesting as you, presumably, are /forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif.
Remember, you can be just as trapped and lonely ashore, there are millions of dating site members to prove it, and (if you're not backpacking) the scenery isn't as good!
Don't give up.
Regards
Kim n Chris
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You are absolutely right. It can be very very lonely.
One of the problems is huge amount of "don't talks" exist. As in "I do not talk to lone sailors", "I do not talk to Americans", "I do not talk to little boats" ...
These attitudes are infectious, and in the clique group are amplified. Does not mean you need to suffer it.
The best way is not to be part of a crowd and change ports, randomly chosen. Meet people in the dock bar or the dingy dock. Be willing to stay for a while in a community and have your face become familiar. Most visitors are seen as sources of money only, in the first few days. Get to help the locals. Fill in as crew on the tour boats. Help build a new bar or help upgrading it. Not all pay is money.
There is also the dead end ports. Every country of sailors has dead end ports. It is where the ones unable to cope with the life take root. It is characterized by boats with plants on the deck. Also when the self appointed community representative comes to vet you on the first day! If you are in that community then the depression is infectious. Get out quickly.
Having an identifiable contribution to a community helps a lot. Sailmaking, Hair cutting, Doctor, Dentist, Engineer, Cook, Diver, Fast dingy, Good radios, Telephone, Weather etc.
There is also the weather window issue. If everyone is going one direction, say up the chain, then they can not proceed in the bad weather so everyone collects at the last port. Then the weather turns good and they all go off on mass. Breaking the urge to go and waiting for the next mass is good.
Then there are the hangers on. These will not go for a sail unless they can get 2 other boats to go out at the same time. Convoys. Once you have done one successful trip it is impossible to loose them. Leaving unexpectedly at 5 O'clock in the morning is the only way.
One of the best ways is only to sail for 6 months of the year and have another activity for the rest. One yachty we knew combined sailing with the ski school teaching. As long as it just pays the marina fees so the boat is secure, it is a winner.
I've just painted a really bad picture, but it does not need to be like that. When you do find the free people that are independent and a community is born it is excellent. Especially if the community has one aim or obstacle to overcome. Like an Ocean crossing or a disaster. Everyone has their strengths, and pooled, things can really happen.
Go up on deck and take a good look around. Is it the boat you want to SELL or is it the port you want to SAIL out of.
(PS. Take up weather and make sure you never get to see real weather again. After the Tsunami there were quite a few people who lost the plot, and others that needed helping back into the life and its advantages.)
One of the problems is huge amount of "don't talks" exist. As in "I do not talk to lone sailors", "I do not talk to Americans", "I do not talk to little boats" ...
These attitudes are infectious, and in the clique group are amplified. Does not mean you need to suffer it.
The best way is not to be part of a crowd and change ports, randomly chosen. Meet people in the dock bar or the dingy dock. Be willing to stay for a while in a community and have your face become familiar. Most visitors are seen as sources of money only, in the first few days. Get to help the locals. Fill in as crew on the tour boats. Help build a new bar or help upgrading it. Not all pay is money.
There is also the dead end ports. Every country of sailors has dead end ports. It is where the ones unable to cope with the life take root. It is characterized by boats with plants on the deck. Also when the self appointed community representative comes to vet you on the first day! If you are in that community then the depression is infectious. Get out quickly.
Having an identifiable contribution to a community helps a lot. Sailmaking, Hair cutting, Doctor, Dentist, Engineer, Cook, Diver, Fast dingy, Good radios, Telephone, Weather etc.
There is also the weather window issue. If everyone is going one direction, say up the chain, then they can not proceed in the bad weather so everyone collects at the last port. Then the weather turns good and they all go off on mass. Breaking the urge to go and waiting for the next mass is good.
Then there are the hangers on. These will not go for a sail unless they can get 2 other boats to go out at the same time. Convoys. Once you have done one successful trip it is impossible to loose them. Leaving unexpectedly at 5 O'clock in the morning is the only way.
One of the best ways is only to sail for 6 months of the year and have another activity for the rest. One yachty we knew combined sailing with the ski school teaching. As long as it just pays the marina fees so the boat is secure, it is a winner.
I've just painted a really bad picture, but it does not need to be like that. When you do find the free people that are independent and a community is born it is excellent. Especially if the community has one aim or obstacle to overcome. Like an Ocean crossing or a disaster. Everyone has their strengths, and pooled, things can really happen.
Go up on deck and take a good look around. Is it the boat you want to SELL or is it the port you want to SAIL out of.
(PS. Take up weather and make sure you never get to see real weather again. After the Tsunami there were quite a few people who lost the plot, and others that needed helping back into the life and its advantages.)
ccscott49
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We have a thriving community here in Barcelona, people come people go, lots of nationalities, some winter her (like ourselves) and cruise the rest of the year, lots of folks work at one job or another, virually all are doing something, not a bunch of miseries and a lot go up to Andorra for weekends weeks, sking etc. Lots to do lots of interesting people and fun! With all of Spain, Italy, France and North Africa etc on your doorstep. There are lots of places like this in the meddy, greece, turkey etc. Maybe you have spread your net in the wrong ocean, you never know.
ribrage
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flicked thru yer blog.... your nuts (in a good way) made me smile. im with the others keep going youll only look back and regret giving in.... you know its true.
Talbot
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Sorry to hear of the death of your dream, I am sure that you have thought long and hard before making this decision. I hope you meet the chap of your dreams, and do not look back on this decision with regret. Please continue to talk to us
I wish you all the luck for the future
I wish you all the luck for the future
SeaVenture
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I'm with the folk who encourage you to keep looking. You want to sail and with someone? So did I--went on the Internet, advertised on several of those dating sites with the key words that met my needs (including "sailor") and met a large number of frogs. Then, just as I was about to give up, I met my best friend and husband. And, we're going to cruise the world. I had thought we'd just sail my little boat or his little boat, but we bought a big boat together to go cruising. It's been five years now and it just keeps getting better.
You've got the boat. Someplace, there's a man waiting to keep you wonderful company who can be your best friend. You just haven't met him yet.
Blessings
You've got the boat. Someplace, there's a man waiting to keep you wonderful company who can be your best friend. You just haven't met him yet.
Blessings
ironmaiden
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look hon I'm in the same boat as you ( scuse the pun and not litaraly cos I,ve got my own boat ) I'm also a single lass and as soon as my boat is finished I'm off.... I also want to meet the partner of my dreams, but I'm not prepared to give up one dream just in the hope that I might forfill another ..because there is no guarantee that says the love of my life is going to be found by following any certain path.... If I find love while I'm sailing then my life really would be complete but I have just as much a chance finding it sailing around the world as I do back packing or simply just waiting for a train !!! it will happen when it happens ......
it would be a shame for you to give up all you achieved for the hope that you might find somone ....because that " someone might just be in your next port of call as your dropping anchor .
take care honey
Rachel x x
it would be a shame for you to give up all you achieved for the hope that you might find somone ....because that " someone might just be in your next port of call as your dropping anchor .
take care honey
Rachel x x
suse
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But the real truth is that it's lonely. Secretly, I want to meet the man of my dreams, and that's not going to happen if I have to babysit my boat 24/7. Had I had a lover to do this trip with, it would have been a different kettle of fish. It really would have been a dream come true. I love sailing. I love having my own boat. But doing it alone just got too much for me.
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My sentiments absolutely exactly - I keep looking at boats for sale, knowing I don't want to do it on my own. Yeah, you meet heaps of people, but whoever of your dreams .... don't hold your breath. It was one of the (rare, fortunately) piercingly saddest bits out of my fabulous trip last year.
PS - just read two more posts - Last year was a lifetime ambition - I'd do it again under the same circumstances (crewing someone else's boat). Dunno what the answer is - if you're lucky to find the right person - fantastic! Or can do it alone - just not for me, too. (Perk up, Susy! OK, perked!!)
S x
But the real truth is that it's lonely. Secretly, I want to meet the man of my dreams, and that's not going to happen if I have to babysit my boat 24/7. Had I had a lover to do this trip with, it would have been a different kettle of fish. It really would have been a dream come true. I love sailing. I love having my own boat. But doing it alone just got too much for me.
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My sentiments absolutely exactly - I keep looking at boats for sale, knowing I don't want to do it on my own. Yeah, you meet heaps of people, but whoever of your dreams .... don't hold your breath. It was one of the (rare, fortunately) piercingly saddest bits out of my fabulous trip last year.
PS - just read two more posts - Last year was a lifetime ambition - I'd do it again under the same circumstances (crewing someone else's boat). Dunno what the answer is - if you're lucky to find the right person - fantastic! Or can do it alone - just not for me, too. (Perk up, Susy! OK, perked!!)
S x
BlueSkyNick
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But the real truth is that it's lonely. Secretly, I want to meet the man of my dreams, and that's not going to happen if I have to babysit my boat 24/7. Had I had a lover to do this trip with, it would have been a different kettle of fish. It really would have been a dream come true. I love sailing. I love having my own boat. But doing it alone just got too much for me.
[/ QUOTE ]Seems like you and Stingo share the same predicament. Maybe you should .......no, no, no .... not even you deserve that degree of punishment. /forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif
But the real truth is that it's lonely. Secretly, I want to meet the man of my dreams, and that's not going to happen if I have to babysit my boat 24/7. Had I had a lover to do this trip with, it would have been a different kettle of fish. It really would have been a dream come true. I love sailing. I love having my own boat. But doing it alone just got too much for me.
[/ QUOTE ]Seems like you and Stingo share the same predicament. Maybe you should .......no, no, no .... not even you deserve that degree of punishment. /forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif
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Hi.....no one has asked 'how much' ?Seems they are all silently wishing you 'not to sell'!'Is it the boat you wish to sell....or the port you wish to sail away from'...seemed a valid point to me...take care..
gregmlucas
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Maria,
Real shame as I've enjoyed reading of your trials and tribulations since you were still teaching in Japan.
As others have said, try not to give up!
Just noticed your blog today - maybe not for sale after all - Good for you.
(You have to understand how many frustrated, would-be world girdlers there are who live a little bit of their own dream through yours!)
All the best with whatever you decide.
. . Greg
Real shame as I've enjoyed reading of your trials and tribulations since you were still teaching in Japan.
As others have said, try not to give up!
Just noticed your blog today - maybe not for sale after all - Good for you.
(You have to understand how many frustrated, would-be world girdlers there are who live a little bit of their own dream through yours!)
All the best with whatever you decide.
. . Greg
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Seems like you and Stingo share the same predicament. Maybe you should .......no, no, no .... not even you deserve that degree of punishment. /forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif
[/ QUOTE ]Oi, I resent that! She would drink me under the saloon table and do her best to give me a coffee enima while I was down. Nooooo thank you very much.
Seems like you and Stingo share the same predicament. Maybe you should .......no, no, no .... not even you deserve that degree of punishment. /forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif
[/ QUOTE ]Oi, I resent that! She would drink me under the saloon table and do her best to give me a coffee enima while I was down. Nooooo thank you very much.
Richard10002
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[quoteand do her best to give me a coffee enima while I was down.
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Two things come to mind:
You should be so lucky, (or dont flatter yourself)
or
So you've met her then.
Cheers
Richard
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Two things come to mind:
You should be so lucky, (or dont flatter yourself)
or
So you've met her then.
Cheers
Richard
