Dear Captain Aubrey

kingfisher

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Dear Captain Aubrey,

I met a fine lass right at the end of last years' sailing season. The fact that a 5-year old son was included in the package was gladly taken along. During the winter she lovingly helped me with a few choirs on board, mainly some painting. I kept her, being female and delicate, from the hard work such as replacing all the plumbing (including the head pump) and putting in a new ceiling.

I also introduced her to sailing the gentle way, by taking her to the adriatic and the Turkish riviera, on a plastic fantastic. But I reminded her that the fair ship "Obi-Wan", being of '70ies vintage, does not hold all of these creature comforts.
We have just returned from our first two weeks sailing on the boat.

I now have a bit of a problem. See, before, my boat was a last bullwarck of male pride. Men were allowed to grow beards. And there was only whiskey and beer to drink. Binoculars were mainly used on tracks close and parallel to the beaches. Camaraderie was a plenty.

No longer. I used to walk from the car for a weekend on board in one go: bag of clothes, backpack with charts and laptop, shopping trolley of food (mainly beer). Now it takes several back and forth trips with the marina wheelbarrow. Because now we also carry covers and pillows for the bunks, a full complement of toys, air freshner for the toilet.
What used to be eaten in taste with just a bowl and a spoon, now takes a fully decked table, including napkings and placemats. I had to buy new cuttlery this year anyway, and had a hard time convincing her that glass and china are not a good idea.

It is difficult to make her understand that yes, I could have spent a bit of time this winter to repaint the insides of the cupboards, but that I preferred to work on reservicing the raw water pump before the persistent leak would destroy the engine in an F6 near a lee shore.
It was also hard for me to explain that destinations are not decided at random. This was easily done by picking a destination against the tide. Doing 2 knots with 8 Nm to go at 2000h was not appreciated, but a lesson was learned.

And last weekend, the existence of the Obi-Wan as a male sanctuary was officialy over: we now carry a pirate flag. I know now what it feels to own a subaru Impreza with a baby seat in the back. The lions' heart still beats, but the claws and teeth have been pulled.

Oh, and the new curtains are arriving next week.

Does your ships still hold a berth?
 
Welcome to the world of family sailing. It's a small price to pay for the company, I find. Get a mate with a bloke boat (mine has a contessa 32 in Newhaven) and go sailing with him from time-to-time just to remind yourself of the good ol' days. Ensure you don't try and jump in a bunk with him and slip him one. There is an upside too!
 
I think that I too am heading in a similar direction. Mrs. Cindersailor is not a friend of any floaty form of transport, but the young offspring (4 & 7) are starting to take an interest and her natural instincts are understandably to want to be there to catch them as they leap overboard with gay abandon. I am of course keen that my, until now mostly solitary, pastime develops into a family activity, but a couple of exploratory trips has shown that anything more than 10 degrees of heel and F3 results in disapproving expressions and hints about getting the sails down and starting the engine. Now I like the rough stuff and find nothing more fulfilling than beating into a good F6. However, it seems that I am heading for a few years of pootling about until confidence develops. My best tactic is of course to encourage an interest in actually sailing the boat, reading a few books, pulling a few ropes and taking the helm. But a comment that a planned 5-6 hour trip down the Clyde to Arran would be about as boring as sitting in the car heading down the M6, shows that I've got my work cut out! Fortunately the kids love it so long as we are heading towards a beach and there are plenty of treats aboard.
 
Ditto. I am investing in the kids (2 and 3). If they want to go sailing/camping - and few kids under about 11 don't - SWMBO might climb down from her current position of 'Not unless it's motorsailing a BenJenBav 42 in the Med, and no we can't afford one!' /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif
 
My Dear Kingfisher
I was deeply troubled by your missive. My own experience is that intimate relations on boats are as often a source of tribulation as of joy. My dearest friend Dr Maturin agrees, and has (as you may know) been driven to the use of opiates and other wonders in order to soothe his own troubled heart. My own preference is to keep a young woman concealed in the cable tier for our occasional mutual pleasurings. I fear that such a course is not open to you, not least in that the equivalent 'chain locker' as I believe furnishes a vessel such as yours, is barely space to secrete a hamster let alone a handsome full-grown woman and her offspring.

I can only say that you have hung your own hammock and must now let it swing.

Yrs most sincerely

'Lucky' Jack Aubrey (Captain)
 
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