ashes...

[snowleopard]

well, we've talked about death, so the next question is how are we to be disposed of?

would you like to have your ashes scattered at sea, if so, where, and have you done anything about formalising that wish?

and before someone else lowers the tone, let's get the gag about the wife dancing on your grave /forums/images/graemlins/smirk.gif

 

[Bergman]

For reason known only to herself SWMBO possesses no fewer than 5 vacuum cleaners.

I'm having my ashes scattered on her living room carpet.

 

[mirabriani]

I had not thought about it.
(Seems a long way off)
Since you pose the question
It has to be somewhere in England
It must be somewhere with good memories
I spent 8 years in a lovely old converted barn in New Romney Kent
The sea was a mile away. Dinghy club half mile further. I could be
on the water in half an hour. I taught myself to sail there
Miracle was 40 mins away, Faversham.
When my son divorced, the ex. stopped us seeing the children until it went back to court. I used to make their names with different shaped pebbles, mount them on hardwood and send them to their schools.
When we got access, I looked after his children at weekends.
Saturday was "my" day with them. We sailed, walked, camped, cycled
on that beach. At other times Dearheart and I walked on the beach
with the dogs
Yes I would say Littlestone beach, definately

Regards Briani

 

[jimi]

Toss up between Glen Rosa Arran and the Buchaille Glencoe. Many happy memories of both. Buchaille was scene of first of many rock climbs.Had many happy days in Glen Rosa and spent honemoon there. However not too bothered as suspect I'll be beyond caring then anyway.

I'm reminded of the following story: Many Glasgow climbers had a soft spot for Ben An in the Trossachs and not a few had their ashes scattered there usually after the ash scattering party had fortified themselves .. on one such trip the fortifications were unusually robust and they nearly forgot to scattter the ashes so at the last minute they were hastily flung out ... all over a large alsation dog accompanying a mystified passerby ...

 

[BrendanS]

There was a wonderful programme on R4 this afternoon about 'green burials'. You can be buried and a tree planted on top. Probably 500 to a 1000 per acre. This then turns into a managed forestry, and the remains fertilise the forestry.

No pollution or formaldehyde, and gets past the problem that cemetries in places like London are now overcrowded, with the site you are buried in will have to be reused within 50 years.

Another alternative was from the US. They use concrete blocks on the sea floor to help establish or repair natural reefs and encourage wildlife to grow. You can have your ashes incorporated into the blocks, and the money helps them pay for the work.

Certainly gave me a few options to think about.

 

[Sgeir]

............ this is not intended to be insensitive and unfeeling, but, from personal experience, I think the mourners on the Buachaille, Ben A'an, Nevis etc, should have some consideration for people eating their sandwiches downwind.

 

[jimi]

WWould'nt mind being buried at sea as a concrete block wrapped around TB's ankles!

 

[Sgeir]

[ QUOTE ]
Would'nt mind being buried at sea as a concrete block wrapped around TB's ankles!

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Can we arrange this at an early opportunity?
;-)

 

[wishbone]

I'ts in my will to be buried at sea, with me scuba gear! just in case..1st choice is off the Cyprus coast if it is allowed, spent a lot of time in the water, diving...if not in complete contrast I'me to be dumped into the Humber did all my training there, want it to feel like home..no one to wear black, and they have to have a right old cockney knees up........

 

[tugboat]

Have I done something to upset you? /forums/images/graemlins/confused.gif

 

[LittleShip]

Concrete block?????????
I quite like this idea..........The block wouldnt have to be too big, SWIMBO could mix it and save on the funeral costs........... hmmmmmm just thinking about changing my will which states that my close friends are to wear Hawaiian shirts.

Now where will she dump me?? /forums/images/graemlins/smirk.gif /forums/images/graemlins/smirk.gif /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif

 

[Phoenix of Hamble]

Brendan,

I listened to that too..... ... yesterday there was also another programme about forests and their maintenance, where they also talked about the 'green tree' burial.....the female environmentalist being interviewed was so passionate about her trees that it quite made me think what a great way to be laid to rest......with a giant oak or yew as a lasting memorial.......I might well be tempted if I can find a spot where a great tree can grow with a panoramic view out to sea......

 

[Rowana]

It's in my will to have my ashes scattered somewhere in the north sea.

Spent the last 30 years on oil platforms, or on work associated with them. I have seafaring roots on both sides of my family, all on the east coast of Scotland. Might as well end up there permanently !

SWMBO will probably take the ferry from Aberdeen to Orkney, which we both love, and chuck me over the side on the way.

That's if I dont live up to the signature below /forums/images/graemlins/shocked.gif /forums/images/graemlins/shocked.gif

 

[LittleShip]

I intend to live forever................. or die in the attempt. /forums/images/graemlins/grin.gif

 

[Colin_S]

Over the floor of my local pub.

That way everyone can have a drink on me and it won't cost me a bean /forums/images/graemlins/wink.gif

 

[BrendanS]

It was great wasn't it. So much information in there, that it's hard to summarise.

PS if anyone is interested in listening to the program, you can listen online on the BBC internet site http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio4/progs/listenagain.shtml to this and other Radio 4 programmes after they have been on the radio. Programme name was 'Changing Places'

 

[AlexL]

Probably I would like to be scattered on one of my favorite dive sites, three that have particularly good memories for me are the wreck of the Yongala off Townsville in Brisbane, "Steves Bommie" on the Barrier reef and the Island of Sipadan of the NE coast of Sabah, Borneo.

 

[philmarks]

Until a few minutes ago, I wanted to have my ashes scattered at sea, although I hadn't yet decided where.

Having read the opening question, I now wonder - what's the point? Does it make any difference to me? Not at all, although it might ease any grief that my kids and/or sister and/or Dad/ and/or friends might suffer on my departure. I think I'll ask them what they'd like.

Dad reminded me last week of the time (quite few years ago) when we were scattering my Mum's ashes across the field behind my sister's smallholding. It was quite a long walk up the field as the undertaker with us slowly "sowed" the ashes as we walked along. We'd walked maybe 50 or 60 yards when my niece (about 11 years old at the time) said, quite innocently, "I hadn't realised that Mama was so tall"! We still laugh at that one! Gives my Dad very happy memories of what would have been an otherwise sad occasion.

So, do I care where my mortal remains end up? Not really, although I have to say that the thought of lying around in a body farm overrules my logic.

 

[Ohdrat]

St Aldhelms Head and no I haven't done anything about it yet...

 

[AlexL]

How about having a navigation buoy or similar as a memorial? Many councils etc have park benches, or trees, or small gardens provided by someones bequest and it provides a lovely memorial- so instead of just being scattered at sea, how about contacting the local harbour authority or yahct club and providing a bequest which pays for one of the buoys (in return for sticking your name on it) I these days of light dues discussions it may provide some much needed income, as well as a nice memorial.