A Sailing Parable

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In the first year of owning their first 32 ft sloop everyone in the family was pleased and at the end of season yacht club christmas bash glasses were held high as were hopes for the following year. In the second season progress is still good but about halway through the season the crew start to lament the fact that the boat doesn't have a fridge, that not having a seperate owners aft cabin is a bit of a pain and wouldn't it be nice if we had wheel steering so we could have a proper autopilot instead of that bicycle pump attatched to the tiller. The skipper being nothing but participative in style listens patiently but suggests maybe we should all concentrate on becoming better sailors first but his plea falls on deaf ears. Six months pass and after a foggy trip back from Cherbourg there are mutterings about Radar and below deck autopilots.

The following season 32 footer is sold and a 35 footer is purchased. The new boat has every conceivable navigation aid and creature comfort fitted including DGPS, Radar, Chartplotter, DSC Radio, Eberspacher, Fridge, Stereo/ CD, etc etc. The boat is late in arriving and most of the season is missed. The following season the skipper is keen to get the most out of his new investment paticulary as he now is working ten times the hours with double the pressure at work to pay for it all but is often so tired and stressed out that he does not have the energy to go sailing. In the meantime the crew have become teenagers and no longer want to go sailing anymore because they will miss out on their new social lives which involve going shopping and going to parties / disco's for which the former first mate of the vessel is required to provide a taxi service.

As the screen fades to the credits, yet another vessel joins the twilight world of yachts that never leaves the marina and end up on the brokers for sale list.

When I was younger all I ever dreamed of was owning a second hand Twister and pottering about on it but somewhere along the way my dream got corrupted. Who was is who said your dream boat is not the one you dream about but the one that takes you sailing.
 

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Yup, a lot of truth in this ... and in the one about the guy who fancied a boat so asked here what it needed and then he asked there. He too ended up in state 2 without ever even having passed through state 1. A lot like that round my way.

Its good to see you back Badger, where you bin?
 

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Thanks for the welcome back Andrew. I have been travelling a lot with work and got out of the habit of logging on ( and sailing my boat). I plan to rectify both this year. Glad to see all is still well with scuttlebutt and that the hard core are still here !!
 

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On the other hand, let's not forget the skipper who got the boat he wanted for its sailing qualities, but not the one his family wanted for their home comforts. 'Other half' finds it cramped, smelly, inconvenient. Result - skipper sails now and then without family. Going for the larger boat with more home comforts may encourage the family to get more involved.
It's a matter of balance - as large and comfortable as you can afford and handle is best imho.
 

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There's something in what you say, but my experience, across many relationships and many women, is that if they don't like sailing in a small basic yacht then when push comes to shove they aren't going to like it in a large, fitted-out one either. (And no-one will like the motor cruiser that is the next attempt).

A delusion that many a poor sod has laboured under. The yacht's at best a floating cottage; all too often a burning source of resentment that all the family's spare cash and leisure time is being spent on something she doesn't like, and she is being made the justification.

A lot like that round my way, too.
 

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Having owned an Albin Vega for many years after being forced as part of the family to sail in a Colvic Watson 35 I can only stress that the type of yacht is very important. I used to hate the family holidays in the tub or floating bungalow but when i finally bought my own yacht, after delivering aforementioned bungalow back from Croatia during the war I found that sailing was indeed fun, stress reducing and just plain good. I returned from the delivery trip, quit my job, bought a Vega, worked 10 hours a week instead of 80! Wow life changed! Since then I have had two boys, three Vegas and still enjoy the sailing. Money aint everything just so long as you have enough to pay the bills but dont get sucked into "chasing the buck" for evry little extra..... GO SAILING

Albin Vega "Southern Comfort" V1703
 
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Hello again Badger! Has it really been so long that you're now classed as a New User?

My solution has been to make the boat easy for single/shorthanded sailing. In my case, my wife is going to the USA for three weeks (visiting my in-laws) so I'm going sailing. Boat gets used, wife gets to see family -- all is well.

It's also been a great excuse to order a pair of Harken 44ST winches!
 

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Re:Just do it before you get too old

Badger I have had similar problems. Wife did not want me to have a boat. Kids busy and me taxi driver/entertainer etc. I was approaching 50 and just went out and bought a boat without spending too much time looking. Now I can sail on my own, but normally not short of crew and have a new load of sailing mates who are in similar position to me. You just have to be a bit selfish and get on with it. Wife will be happy shopping and the kids dont need you at all!
 
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Not necessarily so...

I owned a 23 footer with all the comforts a first mate would need, sea toilet shower, cooker, and 2 ice boxes. The double berth was a bit short for me, but first mate was comfortable, and quite happily enjoyed a snooze while I merrily sailed on.

To intice first mate to go on a charter holiday I rented a 32' Oceanis (instead of 26') in the belief that big was better. After 2 days of sailing first mate preferred the 23 footer - it was more cosy, and there was more room in the head!
 

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We should form a club, those of us who suffer this experience. I did the same. Went out and bought a boat in the hope that wife would come along and try it, enjoy it as I do; then want to share the sailing with me. uh-uh no chance!!
I am presently awaiting second divorce.
Still have boat {Number two} and still thoroughly enjoy sailing.

JACKTAR
 
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